I’m from a huge extended family, so I spent most of my formative years changing diapers, cleaning up vomit and chasing after younger cousins. By the time blogs and social media rolled around, I’d already heard enough for a lifetime. I couldn't understand all the public over-sharing by new parents. Then I took in a teen from the foster care system, and everything changed.
I was posed a question which I find interesting. “Would you like to know if someone hit on me during the day?” Not in a “this is sexual harassment, I need you to beat this guy down,” kind of way, but in a “would something like that be too much information to share,” kind of way. The point of the question is essentially, “Are there some things we should not share within our relationship?”
I recently read a horror story of a woman who met a man on a dating site. He seemed perfect for her in every way. Within a few months she didn't know if she was coming or going and the man had stripped her of money, personal information and dignity. How could this have happened?
The New York Times had an interesting piece about kids today and how they use Facebook as a tool to air their relationship dirty laundry. The Times seems to think this might be harmful to relationships and may signify a degradation of the sanctity of marriage. Should relationship problems be shared on Facebook?
While social networks evolved, ostensibly, to make keeping in touch more time-effective as well as to enable new professional connections they have clearly devolved, for many, in to time-wasting, navel-gazing tools of alienation. Do you spend more time on Facebook each week than you do thinking of ways to make your wife/husband happy? It might be time to break up.