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Starting over after divorce is difficult, but you can do it!
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Divorced? 5 Things Not To Say On A First Date

So many divorcees are angry about their situations, disappointed they haven't met someone, or resentful of their ex-husband's lives. Let it go. Don't start out on a brand new date simmering with pent-up rage. It's not fair to either of you. Relax and plan something that's going to be fun for the two of you to do.

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Stop waiting for Prince Charming to rescue you!
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7 Reasons You're Not Married Yet

Many outside influences put pressure on women to find a man and settle down. However, many women looking for a spouse find themselves alone and unhappy. But why? You're a great catch. It may in fact be that the way we project ourselves on the outside, doesn't match with our inward desire to be loved and accepted by a man.

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The joys of marrying after 40.
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The Joys Of Marrying After 40

In this video, author, hypnotherapist, relationship coach — and, of course, YourTango Expert — Virginia Feingold Clark explains why marrying when you're over 40 can be a very sound and healthy idea.

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Hoarding? How To Clean Up Your Clutter

Why am I holding on to all this stuff? It's no secret that one of the things that women begin to do in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s is clear out, clean up, downsize and do a lot of personal housekeeping. Midlife is certainly a time for assessing and making room for what’s important and that means creating enough personal space both internally and externally. This can mean letting go of unfulfilling relationships, changing careers or starting something new. For some like author Anna Quindlen it meant finally giving away the baby clothes.

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Why Am I So Tired All The Time?

Why Am I So Tired? I’ve been reading about fatigue in women and there seems to be an element that is rarely mentioned---that of being underwhelmed in life. Could you be feeling underwhelmed? Ask yourself these questions: What am I doing today that will give me pleasure or provide me with a sense of accomplishment? Do I have a good friend or two that I can interact with in an honest and forthright manner? What is the most rewarding thing in my life now?

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Are You Ready To Start Dating Again?

For some the last time you dated, George H Bush was president and Top Gun was a popular date movie. Fast-forward 25 years and here you are faced with dating… again. You may have experienced divorce, the death of a spouse or found yourself still searching for someone wonderful to love never expecting to be over 40 and on the dating scene. Albeit you understand that things have changed since you last dated, you are not sure if you have what it takes to enter back into the dating world... I often approach assisting my clients reentering the dating world by assessing whether or not they are ready.

Single Boomer or Gen-Xer? 4 Reasons Twenty-Somethings Envy You
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Single Boomer or Gen-Xer? 4 Reasons Twenty-Somethings Envy You

“I hate being single! Ackkk!” I hear that line hundreds of times from women I meet. If your single life is a drag then YOU are to blame. There is a power you have when you are single (and NOT twenty-something). If you would only embrace it, your life would be ROCKIN’! I have a list that would rival the length of ancient scrolls, but here are 4 great ones:

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Scientists Say You Shouldn't Be Friends With Your Man's Friends

A recent study published in the American Journal of Sociology has found a link between erectile dysfunction in older men and friendships between their partners and male friends. Described as "partner betweenness," this phenomenon occurs when the female partner has stronger relationships with her hubby's friends than he does, effectively coming between him and his friends.

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Over 40 And Single? This Is The Perfect Time To Try Online Dating

There are many obstacles in dating as a single person over 40. Yet, many of my clients initially resist trying online dating for fear of the unknown. As I see it, you can continue the path of least resistance (meaning less potential partners), or you can embrace online dating as a viable way to meet someone wonderful. It's one of the quickest, most efficient ways to expand your dating opportunities and increase the likelihood of finding a happy healthy relationship.

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Dos And Don'ts Of Dating After Divorce

It's finally over: the first date after divorce. I'm happy to report it was painless. The best thing about it was that it wasn't really a date. We were just getting together as a follow-up to an enjoyable meeting at a party connected with a professional conference. I'm not looking for a "boyfriend." I only called it a date because it has been 40 years since I met a man late at night alone. And I wanted to get the somewhat scary idea of that first date after divorce over with.