The "mistress" role in the affair triangle is either made out to be an unfeeling predator or an irresistible temptress, but for the many women out there who have been the other woman, it is a complex, personal, and often difficult position.
Love consultants Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal join us to discuss a very provocative question: "Is it wrong to find excitement in sleeping with a married man?" This question is one that is difficult to answer considering everyone has different views as to what is "right" and "wrong". The allure of sleeping with a married man is through the chasing, secrets and sneaking around. Although, the experts conclude it isn't necessarily wrong, they insist that the outcome of doing so is never good.
by Julie Robinson Married men don’t typically try and lure me into their bedrooms. If on a rare occasion a married guy does try to seduce me—I do a pretty good job of deflecting the situation until it fizzles out. Of course, I have been tricked into having sex with a married guy (sick bastard, I know), but if I’m going into the situation with my eyes wide open I have a firm policy—the answer is NO.
Have you fallen for a man who is already taken, but can't tell your heart to let go? Are you afraid of becoming the other woman? Sometimes love isn't so black & white. What do you do when your love stage is really "complicated"? In this video, YourTango expert and relationship coach, Virginia Feingold Clark discusses the cons of dating a married man. Is it fair to have his love while another woman wears the ring?
Why do some women flirt with everyone—even men they don't like? Our writer explains: "It all started when I was an awkward, mercilessly ugly 12-year-old. And then I discovered what would drastically alter the direction of my life: a stack of Playboys in my step-grandfather's closet. I could master the art of the smoldering stare. I could pout my lips and trail my finger across my chest. I could do this! That day, a flirt was born."
Rielle Hunter denies she ended John Edwards' marriage. Do homewreckers get unfair blame for affairs? "Well, his relationship with her and the problems in it really had nothing to do with me," Rielle Hunter said. "Infidelity doesn't happen in healthy marriages. The break in the marriage happens before the infidelity. And that break happened, you know, two and a half decades before I got there. So the home was wrecked already. I was not the Home Wrecker."
Despite valiant human rights work on behalf of Angelina Jolie to make "the other woman" not look like a big ol' skank, the truth is most people still think "the other woman" is ... well, a big ol' skank. And guess what, ladies?! There's this awesome double standard, so you have your work cut out for you!
Sometimes life throws you a curveball. It looks like Shania Twain is about to marry Frédéric Thiébaud. You may recognize that name as he is the ex-husband of the woman that Shania's ex-husband, Mutt Lange, dallied with. That's right, the old spouse switcheroo. Tyra Banks may be set for her first marriage. It's not a high-profile athlete or actor or fashion dude, it's to a guy called John Utendahl, possibly. She also landed a daytime Emmy. Good work, T Banks.
John Edwards is moving the mother of his love-child into his upscale, waterfront North Carolina neighborhood and will help raise their baby, says the National Enquirer in yet another exclusive report on the disgraced former Presidential candidate. Although lacking proof, sources close to other-woman Rielle Hunter say they believe Edwards is paying for her move.
Diamonds, God and reality shows. What do these three things have in common? They're all ways and means recent celebrity women have handled their part in an affair. In more simplified terms, high-profile ladies seem to go one of three routes when trying to get over their part in an affair:
One of the classic complaints women have about men is the never-subtle wandering eye. Whether it's checking out the cute waitress, staring at the girl at the bar or even just the too-long glances at friends, men constantly seem to be checking out the females within eyesight. Most of these men whose eyes linger lustily don't actually want to make a move, but they do enjoy seeing a nice-looking woman (remember how visual men are?). Regardless, women never seem to enjoy watching their partner watch another pretty lady.