I have begun swallowing.
Essence.com asked its readers to write advice to their younger selves, as if they were stepping back in time to give themselves a good, hard, loving shake. The comments shared are both poignant and revealing, much like Pepper Schwarz's "5 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex at 30." Here's a handful of 10 favorite bits of love-tested wisdom:
Recycled sex, Essex girls do it without condoms, some dudes don't like oral, a mother's weight gain translates to bigger babies, both presidential candidates aren't down with gay marriage, Mad Men teaches people how to date like a man, an Indian man wants an annulment on grounds of his wife's acne, Suze Orman wants you to have separate accounts, and wedding gowns for women in the military.
With the overwhelming number of preferences out there, it's even more vital that we learn to ask about a lover's likes and dislikes. After all, you wouldn't walk into a Baskin Robbins hoping to get lucky and pick your partner's one favorite out of 31 flavors, would you? Conflicting opinions abound on what warrants good oral sex, and Daily Bedpost's caught some on video. Watch and learn!
It's Friday and that means you'll spend most of the day in your cube reading blogs (check!) and surreptitiously watching online videos. Start with this fine, fine Belgian sex ed video about the spit vs. swallow dilemma, courtesy of Gawker. It's safe for work but definitely don't watch with your boss standing over your shoulder...
It's hard not to feel guilty when they're down there for a long time, isn't it? Not that we're not enjoying it. But how do you know if getting you off is turning him on or if he's just taking one for the team? We asked men: "What do you think about going down?"
Greek police arrested nine women and twelve men on the Greek island of Zakynthos after participating in an oral sex competition. What such a competition entails, we're not sure. But we're wondering if it's all the rage on Greek party islands (the beaches! the sun! the hot Greek men!) or if this is a one-off.
What would inspire a rich, powerful man (say Eliot Spitzer) to risk it all on a tryst with a prostitute? Well, in some cases, it's a little oral sex. Studies show that men seeking prostitutes are often just trying to get a bj. Other studies show that almost all men are into receiving oral sex and not that many women are enthusiastic about giving it. Correlation?
The Singaporean legislature has legalized certain once-illicit sex acts... for heterosexuals. In a country with legalized prostitution, consenting straights can now engage in oral and anal sex. Many are upset that the ruling did not cross over the the island nation's homosexual population.
From Bloomberg News By Michelle Fay Cortez The virus that causes cervical cancer may be linked to throat cancer in those who engage in oral sex, a report says. A study in 300 adults found that those infected with the human papillomavirus, or HPV, who had oral sex with more than six partners, were 3 times more likely to get throat cancer. The research was included in a package of studies and commentary on the virus reported in today’s New England Journal of Medicine. The throat cancer study did not explore whether Gardasil, the Merck & Co. HPV vaccine approved by U.S. regulators in June, would be protective against oral infections. Nonetheless, the findings could spur new debate over whether it should be more widely prescribed, since oral HPV infection occurs in both men and women who engaged in this type of sex. Tango’s Take
According to the CDC; about 90 percent of men and women have had oral sex at some point in their lives‚ but that doesn't mean they continue to have it regularly, or even that they liked it in the first place. The reasons why some folks aren't up on going down are a Freudian analyst's wet dream: People fear it's unhygienic. Or they dislike the taste. Or they worry their technique is bad. Or they simply find the idea of faces being in places swimsuits cover to be generally unpleasant.