I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky. So, I'm going to help you out, boys. Here are some things your lady might want, but she's too self-conscious to ask for. Don't pressure anything, of course— but if you offer, you may be pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts ...
Sure, Valentine's Day has passed and the Hallmark cards and heart-shaped balloons are now in the half-off bin, but if you're in a relationship, there's no reason to slack off on showing you care the other 364 days of the year. Still, saying "I love you" doesn't always come easy or convey the depth of feeling as much as simple actions do. After the jump, 34 ways to tell her "I love you" without actually saying it. (And gals, plenty of these can apply in reverse!)
Woman with no vagina gets pregnant? A story of dubious legitimacy about a teenager without a vagina who became pregnant after swallowing semen and then getting knifed in the gut is making the rounds on the internet, after being scrounged up in a decades-old British Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology. Is the internet finding fact or spreading rumors?
The parent of a fifth-grader was disturbed when his son looked up "oral sex" in Merriam Webster's 10th edition and found a definition with the word "genitals." "Oral stimulation of the genitals" in fact, was the exact definition. The nerve! Our question: why is this inappropriate? It is called "oral sex" afterall. Is the fact that gentials are involved supposed to be a shocker?
A mistress messes with her man in Times Square. Third base is still illegal in New Orleans, really. Finding a sugar daddy. Sugar mamas are finding their feet. Do unemployed men cheat more or less? Reasons not to date actors. A simple trick for getting more online dates. 10 more things guys don't want to hear. Sometimes guys get aroused when hugging. Sex advice from homebrewers. How to meet a man in a bar by a professional wingwoman. Finally, reasonable New Years resolutions.
Here are my resolutions for 2010: to go to Bikram yoga three days a week, to get in touch with friends I haven't seen in awhile, to pursue a new hobby (maybe photography), and to take two really awesome vacations. Oh, and I have a few sex resolutions too. Last year I vowed to give less blow jobs (achieved!), but 2010 is here, I'm back on the blowie train, and I'm ready to make a few new sexy vows for the next decade. After the jump are 25 sex resolutions—a few of them are mine, but I'm not telling which. What are your sex resolutions for the new year?
I don't think many women will disagree with the idea that foreplay is a must before having sex with a man for the first time. There's nothing more disappointing than having a man just trying to jump on top of you without giving your some mouth love- dry sex is as uncomfortable as a vending machine tampon. Agreed? Only during quickies should you forego oral sex. Any other time you better expect the man to get on his knees and give you some tongue action. I actually have to come out and admit that oral sex in porn is such a huge turn on. It's so sexy to see a man on his knees eating a woman and watching her get off as he licks her plate clean. It's hot.
RH Reality Check (the website for "information and analysis for reproductive health") recently received the following letter from a reader named Jessica: "My boyfriend does not satisfy me sexually. He only lasts about ten minutes, he won't rub my clit because he doesn't want bodily fluids on his hand and he won't eat me out because he thinks it's nasty, but he thinks that I should give him head. We have been together two years and now it is really affecting me. What can I do?" We sound in.
Should there be a new third base? How long is your longest crush? When you date his family. Some pickup lines really work. Some attractive women are just mean because they can get away with it. Tufts University demands a new level of dorm sex etiquette. When your neighbor hears your sex. What is dry sex and should you have it?
Being an oral goddess may not be your top priority, but it's a pretty handy (or, er, mouthy) skill to have. After all, who doesn't want to be the kind of gal whose mere memory can bring a wistful smile to any ex's face? And if that doesn't convince you to upgrade your oral game, consider the benefits of potential reciprocity. Research sexologist, sex journalist, Lemondrop contributor and The Sex Bible author Susan Crain Bakos tells us how.
How to distinguish between having sex and messing around. Definitions vary. Fifteen years after Lewinskygate you'd think we'd all have it figured out, but it seems we don't. Teenagers who haven't had intercourse are having oral sex and calling themselves virgins. Heterosexual couples who are in the early throes of a relationship say they still haven't gone all the way even if they've heavily petted.