Intellectually, how could we want to deny our partner any source of happiness? That was my struggle.
Relationships have been written, rewritten and molded through the ages of human history. Man made laws have pressured the human race into a secrete life of the open marriage. My wife and I share an open marriage arrangement and find our relationship both rewarding and wonderful. This lifestyle is not for everyone because most people are subjected to the history what others tell us what a relationship should be.
Whatever the case, the blogosphere is now abuzz with conversation about open marriages, which have been around for thousands of years, but have only reentered the spotlight thanks to marriages like Mo'Nique's and TV shows like Big Love. After combing YourTango's archives for first-hand accounts from couples in open marriages, we decided to shed some light on the most common misconceptions about polyamorous marriages:
It's not set to air until Sunday, but Mo'Nique's comments to Barbara Walters about the peculiarities of her marriage to Sidney Hicks are so juicy that they've been chosen as the promotional temptation for the Grand Dame's Oscar Special. According to the Best Supporting Actress contendress, infidelity is not a dealbreaker in her marriage.
In a recent interview with German magazine Das Neue, Angelina is oddly forthcoming about her personal life, opening up about her feelings on fidelity, extramarital affairs and open relationships. She even reveals intimate truths about how she and Brad operate as a couple, admitting that fights with Brad can get pretty physical. Pretty surprising considering that—in the public eye, at least—she's supposedly moved past her wild child ways, and embraced a new identity as a humanitarian and supermom.
Between the fight for gay marriage, the prevalence of open marriage, prenuptial agreements, infidelity, and more, the actual institution of marriage can be a bit... bewildering. So why is it so easy to enter into something so binding, when the chance of failure is so high? And why do we do it? The "American Marriage" documentary aims to answer our questions.
In "The Cheaters Club," a piece for vanityfair.com, single chick, Melanie Berliet poses as an unhappily married woman on the prowl on the cheating site The Ashley Madison Agency. She analyzes three men and makes some pretty broad assumptions about monogamy.
Thank you all for your comments and questions about my recent blog "Open Marriage Benefit: A Three-Parent Household." I thought that this week I would answer one of the questions I received based on that piece. MaliMali asked, "Is she mainly your girlfriend? Is it like he comes home to two wives? Have you ever shared a boyfriend in your marriage?" The answer, after the jump.
The economy has forced me to do some corporate writing alongside my "real" work which means deadlines and company politics and stress. Combine that with a spouse who is in town for less than 48 hours a week and who wants (and needs) to do little more than rest during that time and you're likely headed for the looney bin—or worse. But because I am in an open marriage, a polyamorous relationship, a polyfidelitous vee, I am not alone…at all.
You're in an open relationship, and you have both a husband and a girlfriend. What if your girlfriend or you or your husband all fall in love with someone else? According to polyamorist Jenny Block, "although they are very good friends, my husband and my girlfriend are not in love or involved with one another. And my girlfriend and I are very much in love. The thing is, we don't think of love as a limited commodity. So, falling in love with someone else is not so much of an issue."