We all know by now that online dating is a modern and widely accepted way to meet people. We can search for soulmates 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We can post a picture of ourselves at our best yet be sitting behind the computer searching for studs while we are wearing last night’s hair and makeup and sporting our unsexiest jammy jams. Fabulous!
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by Vered Avrahami, for GalTime.com Previously, I've discussed the simple ways you can use the Web to reach an audience and get a business idea off the ground. Now that you're in business, we're going to discuss how the Web can ease up some of the pressures that running a business has added to your daily life.
“Why does dating have to be so hard?” That is the question that most of my clients always seem to ask during our initial consultation process. Nobody really teaches us how to date. Most of us learn by years of trial and error, some of us learn by observing and others are still in the process of trying to figure out what works for them. They say hind sight is 20/20 but even then, sometimes we find ourselves getting caught up in some of these infamous dating traps that keep us on our search for finding “The One.”
Preparation Before going out on your first date you should write down a few questions you could ask your date in case the conversation will get stuck. People who go often on dates usually know by heart their list of questions and they draw them out at the correct moment in great skill. You might need to get some practice, but thereís no better time to start practicing than today! Here are some first date questions: 1. What do you do for a living? 2. Do you have any brothers or sisters? Are you close to each other?
The east coast is basically experiencing Armageddon firsthand right now. But while Frankenstorm is flooding the streets, your love life could be overflowing, too.
“So, I have already seen your pics, describe yourself to me.” She wanted to know more about me, so I must have intrigued her some. “Well, I’m about 6’4” and about 225lbs.” I wrote, “And as you can tell by the pics I am not hard on the eyes. I absolutely LUV online poker and I do a lot of writing.”
by Panty Parade / Off Go the Panties So, while it’s true that, “Here, give me a hug,” is better than reaching out his hand to say goodnight, when Butthead Bob leaned forward, arms open wide, I internally cringed: Another bad exit. Pleasant conversation. Check. Flirtatious fun. Check. Nothing overly offensive, obnoxious, nor overtly sexual. Check. Bad exit. I will never see or hear from Butthead Bob again.
One of the biggest questions I often receive as a dating coach is, where should I go for a second date? Whether we are dealing with online dating, picking up women at bars, or meeting through friends, coming up with a second date can often be a challenge. This is because want to keep things fresh and exciting in the early stages. Most of all, we want to be careful not to repeat a date that is much too similar to the first date.
Recently I was coaching a woman on how to write the perfect profile for her personal ad on Yahoo! Personals. So before we wrote the profile, I asked her to send me her four best pictures. I asked her to do this because men are as visual as Scooby Doo on steroids, and the first thing they do when they see your profile online is NOT read about your trip to Italy last summer. They want to see how hot you are. Keep in mind that every man has different taste in women. What I find attractive, my friend may not find attractive at all.
It's amazing how some men have absolutely NO social etiquette when they're trying to contact women online! During all my years of coaching women, they have shared with me some of the most unbelievable things men have said to them while emailing. It appears that men feel like they can just say anything in an email when they are online trying to get a woman to go out with them. Some of these things, if they were said to a woman in a bar or on the street, would cause them to be arrested . . . or at least slapped.
Some online lies are obvious. Many people fudge their statistics a bit, shaving off a few pounds, a few years, adding a few inches, boosting their professional accomplishments or their personal achievements. Fudging the truth online in this manner has practically become expectable. But while these little white lies may not be deal breakers, there are some issues that should raise big, red flags.
There was only one time that I felt compelled to do a little recon work on a man who had shown interest in me. We had met online. He replied to a profile I had posted to a then popular dating site. He was 25. I was 38. What did he want with me? That's the question I believe compels most women to go down the Google rabbit hole.
When it comes to online dating, your photos really make a difference. You'd be surprised how easily you can sabotage your results with a poor choice of pictures. Some of the most innocent errors can become huge mistakes when you are looking for love online.