Each week Lyz on Love aspires to do one thing. Make a video that doesn't suck. If I aspire to do two things, it's a video that doesn't suck on love and relationships topics from around the web. This week, I'm talking inter-office dating. Co-worker canoodling. Dipping your pen in the company ink. Carpooling. Did I forget anything?
Crushes, in general, can be a nail-biting emotional roller coaster but when it’s on someone you have to see every work day, things can get a bit awkward. With frequent opportunities for interaction, how do you manage to keep your foot out of your mouth?
Are single women more likely to meet their husbands at work, online or out at bars? A recent Match.com study of 11,000 revealed that one in six surveyed met their wives or husbands online. Online dating trumped bars and clubs as the third most popular place to meet prospective dates, trailing only behind work/school (#1) and mutual friends (#2).
Workplace romances are hardly uncommon. After all, you're probably clocking in more hours at the office than at home. It's easy to develop close on-the-job relationships that can take a romantic turn. But what often starts as a titillating romp in the supply room can quickly turn into a train wreck, endangering your career and your future. Are you willing to chance it? If so, you're not alone. Celebrities, politicians and high powered executives have been known to risk everything for an on-the-job fling.
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Rumor has it that Regina Lasko has thrown her husband David Letterman out of their home. After news of his infidelity came to light, Letterman was given the opportunity to come clean, it's said. The results were not up to par and she is waiting the rest of the year to figure out what she wants to do. She's giving him the same time to figure out if he'd like to continue seeing Stephanie Birkitt or commit fully to his family.
It looks like ABC's late night host may be emulating legend and major influence David Letterman. Reportedly the host of Jimmy Kimmel Live!, Jimmy Kimmel, is dating the co-head writer of the late-evening talk show. Molly McNearney is the lady's name and rumor has it that the two keep it strictly "show business" on the set and save the "show friends" and "show lovers" for after, and likely before, hours. A pretty good office romance policy.
Blackmail. Revenge. Office romance. Infidelity. The Dave Letterman story has it all. A few allegations have been floating about suggesting that the genial comic hosted more than one late show at the Ed Sullivan Theater. We'll probably never know the full extent of what went on because Letterman is such a private dude, but we can likely assume that a few of these allegations are factual and actual. And guess what? I'm really having a hard time seeing the overwhelming wrong in this perfect storm.
Yikes. This Letterman thing is not going away. According to various news sources, more than one other woman has come forward with her own tale of inter-office shenanigans. One of the office romances was supposedly with an intern and the other a regular staffer. Who knows what's true and what's extortion.
Given that most people spend 2,000 hours a year at work, it's likely that at some point, a co-worker will make you want to dip your pen in the company ink. Forty percent of people have done it. Sure there are risks: Meeting-table awkwardness, colleague gossip and a sullied reputation. But on the upside, you might get to do it on your boss's desk. Avoid these conversation clichés to stay on the fast track to some serious job satisfaction.
Lemondrop asks if it's OK to use work email for dating. Yes, yes it is. The problem with the office romance is abusing power. It's a slippery slope using the firm's (and personal) power and resources for romantic purposes. Feel free to date coworkers but be very leery of company policy and good, decent manners.