A satisfying sex life can be a source of comfort and joy. When it's neither comfortable nor joyful, however, don't automatically blame your mate. Maybe your body is trying to tell you something.
"Sex and health do reflect each other," says research scientist Debby Herbenick, associate director at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at the University of Indiana and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. "But because sex is still often seen as taboo, as something we don’t talk openly about, people often separate the two in their lives."
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Here are seven physical problems that can tiptoe into a woman’s bed—affecting the quality and quantity of sexual relations. (Of course, it takes two: Sexual clues can also reveal what your sex life says about his health.)
Sex scene #1: You've been avoiding sex because, well, it hurts.
It might be: Vulvodynia (pain syndrome)
In 2010, in the largest nationally representative survey of American sex lives in 20 years, Indiana University's Center for Sexual Health Promotion found that 30 percent of women reported mild to moderate pain during their most recent sexual encounter. "That's a striking number—we didn't expect it would be that big," notes Herbenick. Care2: 6 Terrible Reasons to Have a Baby
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Fleeting causes of painful sex can include insufficient foreplay and the penis striking the cervix. But for many women, the pain is more generalized, often described as burning, stinging, or knife-like and showing up even when they're not having sex—hallmarks of a mysterious pain syndrome known as vulvodynia. Almost one in five women experiences vulvodynia at some point, according to the National Vulvodynia Association, and six million women have it.
What to do: See a gynecologist. The cause of vulvodynia is unknown, but a thorough medical workup can rule out other possible causes, such as skin diseases or infections. (Top theories include nerve stimulation or inflammation.) Be persistent if you don't get help: One Harvard University study found that women with vulvodynia see an average of three doctors in seeking diagnosis, after which 40 percent still remain undiagnosed. Try looking for a doctor with a vulvovaginal specialty. Treatment includes a range of therapies, including drug therapy to block pain signals, physical therapy, and biofeedback.