Chemistry And Finding The Right Man
By Carol Allen
Have you ever noticed that you can't control who you're attracted to?
You can meet a guy that seems perfect in every way - he has a solid job, good friends, a great family, and yet he doesn't send your heart aflutter.
You can even go on the perfect date with such a man - to a romantic restaurant in which he orders your favorite foods, makes you laugh, and looks deeply into your eyes while listening to your hopes and dreams.
But then at the end of the night, when the “big moment” arrives, he goes to kiss you and it's about as much fun as making out with a dirty sock.
You feel NOTHING - no spark, no butterflies, no excitement.
The only excitement you feel is at the thought of his face getting away from yours…
Don't you HATE it when that happens?
And you're so disappointed, because you could actually BE HAPPY with this man - FINALLY.
And you think THAT MUST BE IT - you must be SCARED.
It must be YOU. You're BLOCKED or something.
So you go out with him on another fantastic date, but again kissing him is like “snogging” a dirty sock, only now it's also soggy.
Perhaps you've been fortunate and not met Mr. "I should marry this guy as long as he doesn't touch me."
Perhaps you've experienced an equally mystifying problem…
You've met a man who has NOTHING you want.
He has a crappy job, complains endlessly about his mother, and badmouths his friends, but somehow you can't resist…
When he so much as brushes your knees with his it's as if your whole body is hit with an electric current.
And the kissing is heaven - you could kiss him for hours…
Pretty soon you're actually falling for Mr. "I hate everybody and have no life.”
Don't you HATE it when that happens?
Again, you think you must be drawn to such a loser because you have a problem.
Clearly, you don't believe you deserve more. Something inside of you must WANT to be unhappy.
Both situations make you feel betrayed by your own body.
It's like something outside of you is in charge.
How The Stars Determine if You’ll Feel That “Zing”
Here's the phenomenal thing - your sexual chemistry with a man IS determined by something outside of you.
And this something reveals if that "zing" is there with him or not.
And if it's not, you can STOP blaming yourself, thinking it's because you have “issues.”
You can stop going out with a man, thinking if you’d just open up to him you’d be happy together.
And best of all - if a man tells you he's not attracted to YOU, you can stop thinking it’s because something is wrong with you.
Like your love handles that no one seems to love…
He can't help who he’s attracted to, either!
So what’s to blame for all of this?
The position of the planets and stars at the time of your birth. You know, astrology.
There’s a planet of PASSION and another of SENSUALITY.
There’s a planet of KINKINESS and another of frigidity.
Certain zodiac signs are frisky, while others are conservative.
So depending on which “celestial forces” are dominant in your astrology chart, you'll be either a vixen with a capital "V" or a demure maiden.
And how these forces “line up” between your chart and a man’s determine if there are connections that heighten or dampen the MOJO between you.
Basically explaining if you want to rip his clothes off on a regular basis, or if the most you can muster is to love him like a brother.
So the lame guy that you find yourself inexplicably HOT for?
His planet of passion will be triggering your planet of sensuality.
Don’t Settle If You’re Not “Feeling It”
In the ancient books of astrology there’s no mention of a “planet of socks,” dirty or otherwise…
Here’s the thing - NONE of this is PERSONAL or up to you.
And yet, the physical bond you share with a man is CRITICAL to the success or failure of your romantic relationship or POTENTIAL romantic relationship.
When the two of you have a PASSIONATE connection (which you CANNOT manufacture), you'll be far happier and even healthier than if there’s not.
That’s IF he also has the qualities you require.
Because you'll be MISERABLE if you're in heaven between the sheets with him but nowhere else…
You must have good chemistry with a man that’s also a GOOD MAN.
So don’t give a relationship that lacks that physical MAGIC too much of your precious time and energy.
I’ve talked to many women who thought passion wasn't critical and that they were lucky to find a good guy to love who loved them back.
Some of these women even thought it was more "spiritual" to be in a passionless relationship.
So they gave up this important part of love.
Sometimes they were able to do this for a while.
But they inevitably meet someone else that turns them on and reminds them of the part of themselves that didn’t die…
And then they HATE themselves for having to leave the good man they've made a life with.
Or for leading a double life.
Or for staying and hating it.
There’s no happy ending to these stories.
And I've talked to many other women who were magnetically pulled to someone they didn't otherwise want.
They kept telling themselves they'd indulge for just a little while, but to their amazement they became attached to and STUCK on a man they don't even LIKE.
So if you’re knocked out by the fireworks you feel when in the presence of a guy you’re otherwise unimpressed with, RUN, RUN, RUN before it's too late.
And PLEASE don't give it another thought if a man ever says, "I'm just not feeling it for you."
It's NOT because of your hair, or your clothes, or your anything…
It's simply not written in the stars.
To see if you and the guy in your life (or someone you’re wondering about) do have a connection that’s “written in the stars” check out “The Right Man Report” with him.
“The Right Man Report” is an in-depth, personalized astrological compatibility report that shows if you and that “special someone” have enough natural affinity to be together.
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