Single in India: First Marriage, Then Love
In Indian arranged marriages you wed first and grow to love your spouse second.
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Liz Tuccillo, writer for Sex and the City and co-author of He's Just Not That Into You, asks why is the divorce rate so low in India? She finds out that Indians are taught that happiness is a state of mind. And if you've had an arranged marriage you wed first, and learn to love your husband over time, as you get to know him.
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Discussion
Having known Indian marriages I can tell that while women must respect their husbands, men have to reciprocate as well.
When there's a problem in the marriage both families are involved, because no one wants to have an unhappy member in their family, and Indian elders are immensely respected. A man who mistreats his wife will be corrected by his own family, and as far as I know if the misbehavior continues, a divorce will be approved by both families.
This was a really amazing video :)
I believe in being friends first, so that the love can actually be real and understanding. Some people look for the sparkle of the being in love stage, that's why they keep on going from person to person... could be more about acceptance and enjoyment of what you have :)
To zeusbark;
They do have to obey their husbands as in many cultures... but as we try to overcome sexism, that wouldn't work for us... i'd rather go with equality.
My mom has gone to India several times, and she has talked to some people who have been in arranged marriages. She says that one of the reasons these marriages work is because in Indian culture the woman has to obey her husband. I don't know if this is true, but it certainly opens up some discussion.
the subtitles arent disrespectful or offensive...
some ppl cant understand the words with the accent...
its just a way to help other ppl understand what is being said
The subtitles are kinda offensive when they are clearing talking in english...
lol
why have you got subtitle's??
I can understand him perfectly! lol
but great vid it makes me think how lucky I am that I do not have arranged marriages in my culture!!!
xoxo
I could understand perfectly too.
But, I think they're for people who CAN'T understand.
:D
Interesting philosophy regarding love and marriage. I don't think I could ever go about it in that way, but still... very interesting.
I love this! I think I could do an arranged marriage, it's part of their culture.
My husband is indian but i am spanish and we were not arranged he had the choice to choose and his family is really nice but i always tell him i dont want our kids to be arranged, yes most of it works but im sure some dont turn out happy. I tell him let sayu love me but u couldnt be with me cuz u were arranged and he says damn i know lol but i still love and respect indian culture we americans should practice som of it.
