Asked by bjc on
was wondering what your advice would be on approaching the topic of sex.
II am 23 and have had sex only once in my life. I'm not afraid of sex nor am I waiting. I had always said that I wanted to wait until I was in a relationship before losing my virginity. Well that all changed last year after a one night stand. I am not ashamed nor do I regret my decision. I learned from it that the next time I have sex I want it to be with someone I have feelings for and vice versa. That being said, I basically feel like a virgin (except for the technicality that I have physically had sex) I still basically have no idea what I am doing and am just curious as to how to approach the topic without scaring some guy away because he thinks I want to wait or that I am going to hold out on him. I could really use the advice. Thanks so much!
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I think the best thing to do is just be honest. I wouldn't tell every guy you date right away, but when you start to feel comfortable with someone and he seems trustworthy, I would open up and tell him that you're not waiting for marriage or anything, but you don't have a ton of experience with sex and you'd like for your next experience with it to be in a trusting, safe relationship. If he respects that (which he should!) you can proceed however you feel comfortable. But any guy who gives you a hard time about it isn't worth your energy anyway. Good luck!