10 Tell-Tale Signs That He's Cheating

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Fifty cheating men — and their wives/ex-wives — give the scoop on what got them busted.

He's acting ... differently, but you just can't put your finger on why. Then, his cell phone rings in in the middle of the night ... and he doesn't have a good explanation. Is he cheating or is he just going through a rough time?

We've all heard the "he blames you for cheating" and "his cell phone has a password on it" behaviors of cheating men, but those are the obvious shifts. After interviewing 50 cheating men — and a number of their wives/ex-wives — there are several subtle changes that can take place and that women are usually unaware of until it's too late. Here are the top 10 tell-tale signs to watch for in your man.

1. He strays from his predictable everyday behavior.

"My wife knew I was cheating before there was any real evidence. She said should could just tell."

After spending time with someone for a number of months (or even years), you know their typical behavior. You know how they will act in certain situations and when they act differently, there has to be an explanation — if not cheating, then something else real and tangible. In this respondent's case, he wasn't doing anything strange ... but he explained the sign that exposed him. When he started his affair, he would grab his phone and head into the restroom for 20-30 minutes. His excuse: He was "reading email and the news." The only problem was, his phone bill showed something very different.

2. He has unpredictable mood swings.

"I was constantly looking for reasons to get away, and it was hard to think of new excuses all the time. So, I'd start a fight with her."

Being angry instantly — or being overly nice — is a red flag. There's no real reason for him to leave, so he has to create one. New activities that he goes to all the time, but never mentions is a glaring example. If he was going somewhere and had no reason to hide it, he would most likely share it with you. ("I need time just to be alone.") While logical, excuses like these are usually without a reason or completely out of the norm for him.

3. He has a rapid change in weight or appearance.

"After I started my affair, I dropped like 10 pounds in about a week. It was crazy." 

Cheating men change physically. Their love handles disappear, their posture changes and their muscle tone/definition returns. It's the body's primal means of preparing for courtship — he's readying himself to attract a mate. In addition, they start taking much better care of themselves and take a lot of pride in their appearance. He's suddenly pressing his clothes, coiffing his hair and shaving daily when he didn't before ... especially when leaving the house without you. Keep reading ...

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