4 Signs Your First Date Should Be Your Last

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4 Signs Your First Date Should Be Your Last [EXPERT]
How to know that date number two is not in your future.

All relationships have to start somewhere and that somewhere, most of the time, is on a first date. So, how do we know after that first date if the guy is deserving of our company for date number two?

Well, there are several ways. I've heard of women who will give their date a test of some sort such as refusing a menu and asking their date to order for her or trying to pick up the check at the end of the date in order to see how he reacts, in the hopes of gleaning some insight into his personality. Ditching Your Date [VIDEO]

 

Although I've never gone the route of intentionally doing something to "test" my date, I've realized over the years that there are certain signs that just spell trouble down the road. I'm not talking about relatively minor things. Although those minor things may be annoying and may certainly be telltale signs of your date's true personality, they aren’t necessarily a reason to cut him off.

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Things like being a few minutes late (I could be forgiving of this one, since I've been guilty of it on occasion myself) or having a messy car. These are the types of things that you have to decide for yourself whether or not they are something you think you can live with. 7 Things You Can Do To Make Him Commit

These will be different for all of us. What I'm talking about here are the real, universal deal breakers. I'm referring to the kinds of things that should make any woman get up, walk away and never look back. I mean, the first date is supposed to be indicative of your best behavior, right? So, if a guy is showing any of these signs on the first date, it's not going to get any better. The Absolute Best Place To Meet Mr. Right

These are four behaviors that are pretty much signs that things are going to get much, much worse:

1. He gets drunk (even noticeably tipsy). I understand that most first dates may include meeting for a drink or two or maybe having a glass of wine over dinner. Our social culture has, unfortunately, seemed to be built around the imbibing of alcohol. But, if your date puts down three or more drinks over the course of the date (regardless of his size), or if he starts becoming noticeably intoxicated, that's a real sign of an underlying problem.

Also, if he comes to pick you up, and you notice the scent of alcohol on his breath, that’s a sure sign of problem drinking. I'm not anti-alcohol, but on a first date you want to get to know the real person, not the alcohol (or any other intoxicant) modified version of the person.

If he's your ride, then he's also putting your safety at risk. In this situation, it's best to politely tell him that you'd rather not get in a car with him and offer that if he'd like to walk somewhere or take public transportation to continue the date, then you'll join him. "He'd Be Great, If Only..."

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This article was originally published at Getting to True Love . Reprinted with permission.
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Jane Garapick

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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at her website www.gettingtotruelove.com.
 

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