Marriage therapists estimate as many as 20 percent of couples are in a low-sex or sexless marriage in the USA. To my surprise, often enough it’s the men, heterosexual men, who don’t want sex with their spouse.
How many times do you hear about a woman complaining about her sexless marriage? Not So Much. For most women it’s very hard to talk about their husband not wanting to be intimate with them anymore. Women tend to take this personally and think that there is something wrong with them instead of talking about it openly and get help.
What Are The Possible Reasons For Your Husband’s Low Sex Drive?
The first thing you should remind yourself over and over is that NOTHING is wrong with YOU. It’s not because you gained a few pounds, it’s not because you don’t like sex toys, and it’s not because of who you are. Got it? Say it again. These are the possible reasons for your husband not wanting sex:
1. Unresolved Marriage Conflicts
If you have marital problems and you fight a lot, or he comes home everyday and finds you angry again, or upset all the time – It simply turns him off. Again, this is not your fault. You are probably upset because you have a good reason to be upset – and the only way to solve this is to work on your marriage together and get professional help.
If marriage counseling is too expensive (it costs at least 300$ for a session usually), there are plenty of excellent alternatives that will be equally helpful but will not drain your bank account. Some of these alternatives are online marriage counseling and online marriage saving e-courses, written by experienced family therapists.
2. Money and Work Problems
A man can easily become depressed and lose his sex drive if he has troubles at work, or has lost his job or he is not able to provide for his family. This is a common situation is America and especially now. Depression causes low sex drive in men and women both.
Unfortunately, when a man suddenly doesn’t want sex anymore – he could be having an affair. This happens usually very quickly and suddenly and not as a process. If you have a gut feeling that he is cheating and you noticed that he stopped initiating intimate relations with you, he definitely could be having an affair.
There are ways to find out if he is cheating, without spending a lot of money for private detectives. You can find out simply by checking his credit card activity. You can learn how to do that and what to look for in this article.
4. Physical Problem
Does he work long hours? Consume too much alcohol?
If you don’t suspect an affair and your relationship seems to be as strong as ever (he is still affectionate, loving, touching etc…) there may be an undiagnosed medical condition that causes his low sex drive. These problems could be diabetes, anxiety and panic disorder, stress, low testosterone levels, heart problems, Parkinson’s, anemia, hypothyroidism, neurological disorders, chronic pain, arthritis and more.
5. More Common Causes