According to the New York Times, when it comes to marriage, financial compatibility is more important than romantic compatibility. The paper posits that even though these days love usually takes precedent over loot, "marriage at its core is still a financial union" and your partner's spending habits have a massive impact on your monetary situation and happiness. They quote a divorce lawyer who says money is a "huge factor in breaking up marriages." Hopefully you'll marry your financial soul mate, but if you don't, the Times has some hints for pecuniary harmony.
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You probably heard that news that John McCain's VP nominee Sarah Palin has a seventeen-year-old daughter, Bristol, who is pregnant and plans to marry the father. In today's New York Times there's a piece with the headline, "In Political Realm "Family Problem" Emerges as Test." Swap in the word "relationship" instead of "political," and you could be describing the experience of meeting your significant other's family. The questions in both the political and relationship realms are these: How much is someone's family a reflection of them, and should your lover's clan influence the decisions you make about him or her? In the relationship realm, someone's family probably isn't a
Ellen Fein, author of the 1995 juggernaut The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right, got married for the second time this weekend. (The first marriage ended in 2000, just as she the second Rules book came out, the one that promised "Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work." But nevermind.) The year after her divorce Fein went to a summer camp for singles where she met Lance Houpt, her future husband. The two connected as businesspeople; Fein is a best-selling author and Houpt owns two "decorative fabric and wallcovering companies."
A cuckold living in the UK has been waging a one-man campaign against an American investment banker. It turns out the banker had relations with the man's wife a few years ago. The cuckold's marriage ended recently and that seemed to be the impetus for a vicious internet smear campaign. The internets just ain't as safe as they used to be.
Ok, is anyone shocked by this news? The NY Times is reporting that HBO is anxious to film a follow-up to the box office smash. Duh. While I loved the show when it was on I was wary about what the movie might hold. It wasn't the greatest film I'd ever seen, but it was a lot more fun than I thought it would be. So much so that when I left I actually didn't mind the $10 I had paid for my ticket. Having said that, I'm really not up for a sequel. I don't want to watch any more awkward Miranda/Steve sex, and I was really happy with how all the ladies ended up. What more is there to tell us?
Trumping news of war, health, food, pets or fashion, the most e-mailed item currently on The New York Times' site is Maureen Dowd's column from July 6 called "An Ideal Husband." In light of celebrity divorces stealing recent headlines, Dowd turned to a man whose motto on marriage would have to be "Do as I say, not as I do": a Catholic priest.
The New York Times on Sunday featured an adorable couple who met online, whose names mean the same thing ("free man" and "free woman") in their respective languages of origin, who have a cute newborn and who live in their "dream home," a farmhouse-like brownstone in a neighbor-friendly 'hood on the Brooklyn/Queens border. Oh, and, the husband refurbished the place himself, and they share a love of children's books. And, no, this is not the latest romantic comedy box office hit. You'd love to hate them if you were in the habit of doing so, but I say there's nothing wrong with a little ogling now and again to remind ourselves that fairy tales do come true. Cute couples do find bliss in farmhouses in New York City.
It's not only my friends, who spent last weekend meeting at least one or three new prospects, while others entertained (or, ahem, exercised) the idea of taking up with someone from the past. It's our single blogger Rajul's post on Monday about her sexy journalist self considering the unexpected advances of a gentlemanly, chauffeur-driven musician. It's ScarJo's possible engagement (breaking Woody Allen's and scores of other men's hearts). It might even be Jessica Simpson's engagement, too. Maybe. Is love actually in the air or has the season gone to my head?
The New York Times has an interesting piece on “impression management,” the idea that we shape our behavior to alter others’ perceptions of us. This is particularly true of online dating profiles and social networking sites, such as Facebook and MySpace. Here’s a snippet: “Among Mr. Walther’s findings is that the attractiveness of the friends on your Facebook profile affects the way people perceive you. In a study to be published this year…Mr. Walther and colleagues found that Facebook users who had public postings on their wall (an online bulletin board) from attractive friends were considered to be significantly better looking than people who had postings from unattractive friends.” Interesting, no? Turns out, you don’t have to be drop-dead gorgeous for other to think you are. Just find good-looking friends, and you’ll be camouflaged in the “pretty jungle.”
Susan Piver presents "The Hard Questions" for the post-honeymoon stage. Knowing what to ask each other (and yourselves) can help move your relationship to the next level. The author of the New York Times bestseller The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say "I Do" offers up an exercise. "Romance can never last, but intimacy can never end," explains Piver, who created these 20 new "phase two" questions exclusively for Tango. She talks with us about her eye-opening exercise for anyone who has made a commitment—and is committed to making it last.