You started out the new year with a bang. You re-upped your online dating membership, sent countless messages and said yes to every blind date imaginable. Yet still, here you are, single on Valentine’s Day. In my unmarried days, I remember the agony of sitting at home on that fateful day of the year, opening the door for my roommate’s date to find him with a dozen red roses and a romantic twinkle in his eye then returning to my bowl of lukewarm ramen noodles.
NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS
For those of us who find solitude energizing, winter is heaven's cousin: the perfect excuse to stay inside with ten great books, a lot of paper and a lot of pens; coffee's optional. For others, winter means misery. Especially for singles, the cold months can be particularly lonely and frustrating.
It’s a New Year; A new you must be in there somewhere, right? Along with the top three New Year's Resolutions women make for Positive Change (eating healthy, getting in shape and saving money) maybe you’ve added the popular: Get Organized! Clearing the clutter in your workspace is a great place to start! It is an empowering first step to getting organized. But if you’re anything like me, just the thought of starting that process sets off the “overwhelm” alarms. It just seems to makes the stress worse!
At this time last year, I made a very ambitious decision for 2012: I vowed not to change a thing. Seven months into motherhood, and inspired by an article that suggested readers resist the mad dash to "New Year, New You" themselves, I decided to be content with who I was. How did it work out? Keep reading.
1. What did you learn about yourself from this past year? 2. Which relationship(s) meant the most to you this past year and why? 3. What was one of the biggest challenges you faced this past year and how did you handle it? 4. What was one of your proudest moments from this past year and why? 5. What was one of the most meaningful compliments you received this past year? Why was it so meaningful to you?
For the New Year I decided I was going to give up drinking, smoking and carrying on, a term affectionately used by my bandmates. And, I thought, why wait until New Years? Why not get a head start? I had hit my version of rock bottom recently, which I've been told is "lucky." That night, I got to having a few drinks with some girlfriends and the next thing I knew two of the girls I was with broke out into a fist fight. Yes, it was pretty violent and aggressive.
Are you looking for the perfect intimate New Year’s activity for you and your significant-other? Look no further. This 4-Step activity I’m outlining below can be used for either personal reflection, as a group activity on New Year’s Eve, or for an open and intimate conversation with that special person in your life. For best results, I recommend going through this process alone the first time before sharing your responses with others.
In January, the common topic of the office kitchen conversation is the New Year's resolution. Until recently I never actually did much of a planning for the year, so when asked I made up something. My standard answer was "be more organized," which hardly happened!
As an author, I’m forced to consider beginnings all of the time. How do I start a new blog? How do I begin an article for a website? How should I start the next chapter in my book? The beginning of anything is so important. The start of something means you have initiated. You have taken the opportunity to cause the process of doing something. You are introducing something new. The fact you are introducing something means there is some level of consideration in what you are doing.
Last Saturday night, I decided it was a good time to get an early jump on a handful of my 2013 new year’s resolutions. I sat blurry-eyed and drunk on a late-night home-bound train, both sad and elated at having just a few hours earlier, ended a serious relationship. Starting Sunday, I would: Drink less whiskey on Saturday nights, and Manage my relationships better. Manage My Relationships Better
How are those New Year’s Resolutions working out for you? Do you even remember them? Truth be told most of us wind up foregoing the resolutions we’ve barely begun, a few short weeks into the New Year. If your resolve has begun to wane it’s not too late to re-energize it. Drop that defeatist attitude because here are seven ways to keep your motivation up and “life” well out of the way of your goals:
The best way to have a happy relationship is to keep working on it, so even if you're not in a relationship rut, follow these 12 tips from our staff and you'll keep being happy!