By Marianne Beach, for GALTime The flowers are blooming, the grass is growing—meaning it’s time for some spring cleaning. But we’re not talking about clearing out your closet or freshening up your house. Nope, we're talking about spring cleaning your love life. Yes, you heard me. It’s time to wash that guy right out of your hair.
Spring is the perfect demonstration of the possibilities for our lives as the seasons change and bring with it a new opportunity for a better day. Spring has always been a magical time of the year because it is nature's illustration of whatever appears to be "dead and without life" can come alive once again. Single women can get a fresh start for spring by realizing that no matter how dismal their love life appears to be, in an instant, this can change with a correct change in mindset, approach and understanding.
A client asked me today, "How do romantic relationships change us?" The idea behind this question is intriguing and may shed light into the darker places of relationships. This question underscores our unspoken fears of loss of control and the need to conform to someone else's ideas about happiness. As a therapist, I tend to see the couples "in trouble" so I may have my own a somewhat stilted view of things.
Sometimes guys get a reputation for always wanting to play the field—even when we're in good company--and who are we to fight biology? That said, the truth is the vast majority of men really do want to find the woman of their dreams, the love of their lives, "the one." It's just that, for some guys, the process of finding her, approaching her and talking with her seems unthinkable. To ease their quest and help guys everywhere get what they want, I've come up with seven sure-fire ways to find her, meet her and talk to her!
We get it. Breaking up with your ex and moving forward with your love life is easier said than done. That’s why, we are here to tell you how to perform an “ex-orcism” on yourself. Read on and we assure you that you will feel more confident and ready to finally stop obsessing over someone who is holding you back from finding the man you deserve.
Here's a hard truth; are you ready? There are parts of you that guarantee you will never get what you want most. Ever said something like, "Part of me is ready to move on from my ex, but part of me can’t stop obsessing about him or her," or “Part of me is ready for a great relationship, but part of me thinks I don't deserve it yet?” If so, it's because you actually have a lot of "Parts" inside you. Some that are designed to get you what you want most, and others that are designed to stop you from getting those things. You’ve got a myriad of Parts within you. Parts are like worker bees to your queen bee. Each Part works diligently for you, yet each one carries out a differing intention or belief of yours and thus they can be at odds with each other. This very human phenomenon is called a “Parts Conflict.”
My friend Kate was driving with her dad when he showed her what it really means to look on the bright side. It happened the day they got a flat tire and his face lit up. “Oh good!” he said. “I’ve been meaning to teach you how to change a flat tire and now we have the perfect opportunity!”
Many pop culture examples point to the external "breakovers" women engage in following a breakup. Is there really something to this? Can cutting our hair or buying a new outfit help us get to a place of being "over" an ex?
In all the years that we have been saying to clients, "Intentions equal results," this past couple weeks was the first time the concept of "setting intentions" really seemed to resonate with people. Instead of setting resolutions, sites like Facebook were ablaze with people setting their intentions for the year.
The end of a marriage. It only makes sense that it also can feel like the end of romance, intimacy and the kind of connection and companionship you've wanted-- even if your relationship was painful and disappointing. When divorce happens, it can seem to be the end of your chance for love. We know, this can be a big, huge and painful change. In many ways, divorce is the end...but not the kind of end you might think.
There is nothing like the first day of a new year. This is the time to begin a clean slate with which to create something new. It is the perfect occasion to take some time for reflection and introspection. It's time to let go of the past year and make a vision for the year ahead.
Do you listen? Do you hear the whisper? A sense. A knowing. A quiet nudge. In your heart. In your belly. In your bones. The whisper speaks. It’s different for every woman. Do you listen? It’s always there. Guiding you. It’s always there. Leading you. It’s always there. Do you listen?
There is no doubt about it, break ups are painful for all parties involved. Whether you plan to rip it off like a band-aid or plant the seed and treat it like a process, ending a relationship is no easy task. Often, the challenges facing the person initiating a break up are grossly underestimated. Friends and family are likely to be more supportive when their loved ones get "dumped," showing less empathy and concern when they cut the ties.