Before you go out for another marathon weekend of drunk texting, vibrator buying and mooning after your sociopath non-boyfriend, check out some of these twelve links from our Internet besties. Empower thyself!
It is a truth universally acknowledged that "sex with an ex" falls somewhere between "crush on a co-worker" and "affair with a married man" on the great Don't Go There continuum. You're playing with fire, psychologists admonish would-be repeat offenders in their advice columns and call-in shows. It will only bring back a flood of emotions. Find someone new and keep that door shut, girlfriend. With all due respect, I think the advice columnists are wrong: breakup sex is way underrated.
Anyone who's been in love, lust or a variation of the sort knows about becoming attached to a scent. Tommy Hilfiger cologne, Old Spice deodorant with a hint of sweat, and Trident gum all come to mind. The funky side of this olfactory attraction is when the reminding scent happens to be an unpleasant one. Armpits, for example, are not famously sweet smelling. Yet, nestling into a man's nook and inhaling a mix of his natural body odor (likely with a trace of deodorant) can be oddly comforting, erotic or both. The same goes for morning breath.
One of the misperceptions of the Tantra practice is that it inherently involves sex. Not so. The belief system is so much more about aspiring to a controlled state of mind than it is about sticking to specific rituals. Like so much of Buddhist and Hindu thought (to which Tantra is closely linked), at all times—including during sex—the goal is being present and "tuned in" to the moment. As one New York City Tantra guru told YourTango, her instruction can seem more like couples therapy than red-hot sex workshop. To start, she tells partners to place their hands on the others' hearts and describe the times they feel most loved or cherished by them. So, before taking it to the bedroom, try applying Tantra to other parts of your life and relationship—the results could be mind-blowing.
Nookie? It's gonna cost you. But whether that cost is in the form of condoms, taxi rides, or that wonderful social lubricant known as Pabst Blue Ribbon is up to you. Nerve.com asked nine people to track their sex-related budgets for one month and the results range from 0$ to hundreds of dollars per week.
Nerve has thoughtfully put together a list of the 50 Buzziest Blog Posts Of All Time. Below are our favorites; go here for the full list. 38. STD All Stars. A chick contracted herpes from a one-night stand and she was so pissed that she created a blog about it, and posted pictures of the dude all over Williamsburg, Brooklyn. Getting the herp sure does suck, but it's not like her life is over. People with herpes can still find love! The original blog doesn't exist anymore, but Nerve links to a bunch of posts about the kerfuffle.
Is divorce ruining society? Well, no. A Nerve.com essay argues that divorce has always been a part of society, just for social and economic reasons it hasn't always been visible. But as society moves closer to gender equality and as more and more women achieve financial independence the institution of marriage is taking on a new meaning. Marriage is no longer a means of financial and social security. Marriage today is about love. And conversely, divorce today is about incompatibility. From gay marriage to open marriage, the definition of "until death do us part" is in flux and the odds are good your childrens' marriage will look vastly different from your own. But is that such a bad thing?
Ahh, Craigslist. It's a great place to network on jobs, apartments and even a possible relationship, although that's really not my thing. If I were to do the "courting over the internet" thing I would prefer the Mercedes of mating sites like Match.com or Nerve or what not...and this is why.