It’s funny how two people can have the same circumstances, and have two totally different ways of dealing with them. It all starts with how we think. For one person, let’s call her Betsy, she looks at life through a ‘yes, but’ lens. She tries to be positive but all she can see are problems, challenges and obstacles to get past. When something happens in her life, her brain automatically goes to, “Oh no! What will I do? I can’t believe this happened to m
NEGATIVE THINKER, POSITIVE
Have you developed the bad habit of dwelling too much on the same negative thoughts. And there is no outward physical problems associated to them. It is just your negative thinking, like “I’m so depressed” or “I hate my job” or “I can’t do this” or “I hate being fat.” How do you break a bad habit when it is entirely in your mind? There are actually quite a number of ways to de-condition a negative thought pattern.
In all my years as a parent educator, I have never met parents who earnestly wanted to hurt their children. Most parents sincerely want to encourage and empower their children to lead strong, successful lives. However, it is their lack of mindfulness that defaults into old patterns and belief systems that teach their children harmful messages rather accidently.
When I was a child, it seemed like every adult in my zip code had an uncanny skill for making a “mountain out of a molehill.” In other words, of taking the smallest shred of negativity and amplifying all the tyranny and rottenness that shred of negativity may have implied. Before I go any further, let me give credit where credit is due. Exaggeration—the ability to weave a grand story out of next to nothing—is a very creative endeavor. It takes a keen eye, creative determination, and a lofty ability to wax poetic on all that is wrong.
It’s no secret that people who are more positive are happier and attract more of what they want in their life. You see it all around you. You notice people who have great jobs. You see smiling couples holding hands. We all want to be fulfilled and happy, but how can you be more positive when negative thoughts are floating in and out of your mind all day?
Words can hurt or heal. Choose the words you say so your voice will be one of encouragement and praise, rather than demeaning and negative. Change the way you talk to others, and change their lives and yours. Empower those you incounter with encouraging words and phrases. I want to share a story with you about why I am so driven to teach, guide and mentor parents, coaches, counselors, police, teachers and other adults who are in a position to work with young people. Tell Me The Words To Say
12 STEP PROGRAM FOR NEGATIVE THINKERS 1. I admit I have power over Negative Thoughts and that these Negative Thoughts make me feel awful. 2. I believe that a Power Greater Than Myself can help me be more positive. I want to believe this because I really need help here. 3. I make a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of this Power Greater Than Myself. Hey, nothing else has worked. Got any other ideas?