Narcissistic Personalities & Sociopaths Conscience is a type of judgment, that tells us what is right and wrong. It begins in early childhood, when (hopefully) parents teach a child what he can or cannot do (beginning with "no!"), then gradually how to tell right from wrong. Conscience-building continues in Sunday School, regular school and within the family and the neighborhood. We learn what's right and wrong on a personal level, a spiritual level, and a social level -- if we wrong our friends, they leave us.
[Note: In this article, I speak as a masculine man in relationship to feminine women. Please adjust the gender terms to suit your relationship life.] In previous articles, I described narcissism as an extreme form of selfishness. But narcissism goes beyond mere self-interest. It’s more akin to egotism — an excessive or exaggerated sense of self-importance. In the extreme, a narcissist exists alone at the center of his (or her) known universe.
Dear Dr Romance: I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight. I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a relationship with her and my trust was broken.
I recently went to see the new Disney movie "Oz the Great and Powerful." You see, as a psychologist and author of the book Follow the Yellow Brick Road: How to Change for the Better When Life Gives You Its Worst, I took a special interest in this film. In my book, I devote an entire chapter to the concept of the wizard, and it is through this lens that I warn my clients to watch out; the wizard will wreck your relationship.
A narcissist may come across as arrogant and selfish. They undermine others to inflate their own sense of self. They truly believe that the world revolves around them. People and things are there for them to use when and if they please. They are unable to show true empathy for others, which make it difficult to maintain a loving, healthy relationship.
Does HBO have a monopoly on series centered around characters who suffer from narcissism? No, but the network sure has its share! There was Valerie Cherish (played by Lisa Kudrow) in "The Comeback," which my husband swears was cancelled because the character was too excruciating to watch. Now Amy Jellicoe (Laura Dern) is creating chaos in "Enlightened," with rumors swirling of its cancellation because of poor ratings.
The Human Magnet Syndrome / The Introduction to the Book About 30 years ago, my dad joked (or so I thought was a joke): “The soul mate of your dreams is gonna become the cellmate of your nightmares.” It takes some of us decades to realize that our parents were actually a lot smarter than we gave them credit for. What I thought was just a flippant and cynical comment would later help to define my understanding of dysfunctional romantic relationships. I would never have guessed that my dad’s off-the-cuff remark would cont
People often ask me how they can know whether or not someone they are dating is REALLY open. "He seems open, but how can I know? My last guy seemed really open until we started living together and then he was always angry. I don't want that to happen again," said Kiera in a phone session. "Have you and your boyfriend had significant conflict yet?" "No, we've only been dating for two months."
News Flash: Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise are divorcing. Many stories have indicated that Katie filed the divorce papers secretly, and Tom was blindsided with the news. Many people are asking why. While I don't know Katie and her reasons for using this tactic, I have talked to many women over the years and have witnessed multiple reasons to be secretive and careful when considering divorce.
Could we be expecting too much from people who might not be pre-disposed to "niceness"? A study reveals that niceness - and narcissism - might be in the genes. (http://bit.ly/IIIqXe) There is DNA associated with traits that relate to being giving, caring, and responsible. This discovery is affiliated with what Dr. Bonnie talks about in Make Up Don't Break Up, where a person who's loving and caring often has two specific hormones in their genes. Oxytocin - the cuddle hormone - and vasopressin - the risk-taking hormone.
I have been in a relationship with a narcissist for over four years. I didn't realize he was a narcissist until I began to feel as if I was losing my mind about two years ago and sought out therapy. The relationship, or lack thereof, began good, then got very bad and the cycle continued to get progressively worse and littered with emotional abuse.
In what’s being calling “breaking news” this week, Representative Anthony D. Weiner has confessed to online sexual communications with a woman other than his wife. He is, one of many men in the public eye whom have been caught sending provocative pictures, texts, webcams and video engaging in what I call sex on the download otherwise known as online sexual behaviors. The frequency of such events raises the question of what is the appeal of sex on the download when you are a high profile person?
Great energy, charismatic smile, but you better know how to spot a narcissist! Narcissists In The News That's a headline that I'd love to see on TV some day soon. Because whether we're talking about Bill O'Reilly, Glenn Beck, Sarah Palin, Charlie Sheen and Donald Trump, or the crazyness of Moammar Gadhafi, narcissism is increasingly in the news these days, front and center, right where the narcissists want to be. Our culture seems to have made a decision that promoting the self promoters over everyone else's interests is somehow in our interest.
You might think that narcissistic people love only themselves, like Narcissus who fell in love with his own reflection in the classic Greek myth, but the very opposite is true. The narcissist usually struggles with profound feelings of shame and low self-esteem. The grandiosity you see, the clamoring for admiration is a way to keep all those painful feelings about themselves at bay. How can I have anything to feel ashamed about when I'm so admired and beloved? To bolster themselves and boost their egos, some narcissists crave admiration and envy; others want you to fall in love with them.
A study says that women like their men like their coffee: dark. More accurately, the study shows that college dudes with the "dark triad" of personality traits (selfishness, lying and death-defying) sleep with more chicks. Evidently, evolution favors the kind of guy who would slime his way into your loincloth, finish" quickly and swing out of the cave on a vine. That guy has an opportunity to spread his seeds far and wide. Evidently, that's why there are so many jerks and bad boys walking around these days.
With shows like The Pickup Artist remaining perennially popular, it seems that male narcissism is flourishing if not becoming epidemic while being fueled by our culture and the media. While egomaniacs may make for irritating but good TV, they can have a truly destructive impact on the lives of their loved ones. A Chicago Tribune article about dating narcissists offered some handy tips on how to diagnose and, more importantly, decide to live with (or leave) a narcissist. The American Psychological Association lists nine core traits of narcissism, but someone only needs five of these to qualify for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Yay!
The story that has dominated the last month of this past decade is, of course, Tiger Woods. The most important athlete of the 21st century is the focal point of a story that started with a wrecked Escalade, segued into a potential female-on-male instance of domestic violence and culminated with the revelation that Tiger has been poppin' gals on the side like it's nobody's business. But is this really a big story?