I have found that I write the best when someone has either pissed me off or amazed me with their sheer stupidity. In this case, it was sheer stupidity, unfortunately. I was browsing through the Q&A section of the site when I stumbled upon a question by some blatant retard who wondered if there was some kind of anatomy difference between big women and slim women that caused the larger of the two to be really “horny” and “freaky.” Initially, I wondered just how big of a dumbass actually pondered whether the anatomy of two women was different, but after staring at this geniuses reference to women who were “9’s” and “10’s” I made the assumption that this guy’s elevator didn’t come close to the top floor. However, the two women who responded to the dumbest question of 2010 (so far) might actually be more ignorant than the winner who posted it. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
I understand the pain of cheating and knowing that your spouse or significant other went to someone else. I fully understand that. I also realize that the wife who has been cheated on immediately becomes the victim, and no one's pain or hurt compares to hers. Personally, I'm not one for people crying "victim," but whatever works for you. However, what I see too often is that the wife/girlfriend doesn't realize or doesn't want to accept the fact that the mistress often loves, cares about, or at least has feelings for her husband/boyfriend. Only on rare, rare occasions is there no emotional attachment involved. And this is where I have came to live. I realize that I have strong feelings for a married man.
No, it's not what you think, I'm not giving you tips and techniques on how to cheat, but tips and techniques on how to catch a cheater, and how to affair-proof your marriage or relationship. Nonetheless, if you're a cheater you could probably utilize the information contained within...read on.
"I believe the lack is in the cheater. It is not the marriage or the spouse. There is a hole in the cheater and that is their responsibility to fill or ask for what is needed. There is never a reason to commit adultery. How abut leaving, how about honesty with the self and the spouse? How about vows, communication? The same steps can be taken without the affair. ie. getting needs met. The action is not taking responsibility for oneself. Insight and personal growth is without the cheating and profound hurt for all which follows. The pain never goes away entirely. Just say NO, like and adult." -kwd (Anonymous user)
I've been pondering the questions, "Does anyone deserve a second chance?" and "Is cheating worth breaking up over?" for quite some time, and I'd like to take the opportunity to address both of those questions.
All women know that there has been some man that you've given a second chance, and a third, a fourth, a fifth...and so on. However, does anyone really deserve a second chance or when we pass out these "get out of jail free" cards are we really only prolonging the inevitable? Should we simply move on the first time that we break up? When and how does someone deserve a second chance?
The biggest issues are always cheating and trust. (Usually in that order.)
If someone cheats on you (or has an affair, whatever terminology you prefer) does he or she deserve a second chance? Should you break it off?
I just finished reading a blog post discussing the issue as to whether or not the "other woman" should apologize when an affair or cheater is exposed. The arguement was that the "other woman" should apologize for everything that she did, and several of the comments conveyed that opinion. However, I have an entirely different attitude and opinion on the subject matter.
Why should the "other woman" apologize? She isn't sorry for anything. You only apologize when you're truly sorry for your actions, and in these situations the "other woman" is never sorry for what she did. Only on rare occasions does the "other woman" not know that the man is married, and in that case, I suppose that an apology would be in the works. However, when the "other woman" knows that the man is married, she knows what she's getting into, it's no secret, therefore, there is no sense in apologizing for something that you do not regret.
