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50 Shades Of Gray: Do You Like It Rough? [EXPERT]
This book may make you reach for your handcuffs ...
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50 Shades Of Grey: Do You Like It Rough?

I just saw a video clip from The View, during which Barbara Walters asked her co-hosts if they like it rough. As in do they like their sex rough. Not surprisingly, none of them would answer the question, despite Walters' best efforts. Whoopi Goldberg was so distracted imagining her co-hosts having rough sex she said, "You made my eyes bleed!"

Own Your Inner Stripper
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Own Your Inner Stripper

The other day I wrote an article for yourtango.com that got picked up immediately by Shine! for Yahoo. It was about how being a stripper made me a better lover. Immediately, women began posting comments about what a horrible person I must be. They called me a home wrecker, accused me of having sex with married men, and declared that I must be hopelessly insecure.

Should You Stay Or Should You Go?
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Should You Stay Or Should You Go?

Should you stay or should you go? This is the perennial question in long term relationships that have gotten stale. It's the question that launched my business, Romance Recovery, and the one that prompted me to write my new book, The Soulmate Myth. (YourTango readers can go here to get a preview) It’s an important question, but in order to answer it with clarity, you have to ask yourself another important question first.

How Being A Stripper Made Me A Better Lover
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How Being A Stripper Made Me A Better Lover

Flipping through YourTango on this fine Friday morning, I came upon a great article from a fellow YT expert about 7 things you can learn from strippers. It was written from a guy's point of view, and it absolutely paralleled my own personal experience as a stripper. Some of the YT readers didn't really appreciate the article's point of view, but I'd like to defend it.

Choose Your Focus In Love
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Choose Your Focus In Love

Last week I listened to a clip of Dan Savage, syndicated columnist of an article titled “Savage Love.” He was talking about how to make it work when you’re in a long term relationship. One of the things he suggested was to notice the best version of your partner. He said that long term relationships survive when each partner insists on noticing the best version of their partner, even when their partner isn’t displaying that particular version of themselves. It’s excellent advice, and it got me thinking.

Keeping Your Fights Clean
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Keeping Your Fights Clean

Flipping through an old Cosmopolitan magazine the other day, I was drawn to the title of an article called “Bacon Sex.” You might think it was the Sex that drew me, but really it was the Bacon. I am shamelessly addicted to bacon, and the thought of combining bacon with another thing I adore was intriguing.

5 Ways To Tell If He's The One
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5 Ways To Tell If He's The One

How do you know when you’ve found “the One?” Allow me to first dispel a common myth. Most of us have more than one “the One” in our life. With very few exceptions, we will all experience more than one great love in our lives. Each person who shows up as a great love is there to teach us a lesson (or two) and to bring us closer to unconditional love. Everyone who shows up as love in your life is one of your soul mates. Did you know you had more than one soul mate? We all do.

The 3 Poisons Of Jealousy
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The 3 Poisons Of Jealousy

You may connect jealousy with romantic relationships, and it’s true that many romantic relationships are fraught with jealousy. But did you realize that the green eyed monster of jealousy can rear its ugly head in other situations as well? Did you know that it can cause just as much damage in a work situation as it can in a romance?

better sex
Who knew a simple conversation could improve your sex life?
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Talk Your Way To Better Sex

It's considered common knowledge that the things people fight over the most are sex and money. Did you know that it's not true? A recent survey conducted by YourTango revealed that the number one reason people fight is because they don't feel appreciated by their partner. Communication issues ranked second. Personally, I think if you don't feel appreciated by your partner, chances are pretty high that you're not communicating well, either.

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"A true friend sees the first tear, catches the second and stops the third."
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5 Ways Friends Can Help You Get Over Your Ex

In YourTango's recent breakup survey of 1,329 people polled between December 21, 2011 - January 9, 2012, the #1 most popular activity people recommend to someone getting over a breakup is to "spend time with friends". For someone in the midst of a breakup, here are 5 healing ways to interact with your friends to shake off your Ex and get over your loss.