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When The Planets Align...
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When The Planets Align...

There’s a lot going on in the galaxy these days. I’m no astrologer, but I read a great blog about it at divine harmony.org. In a nutshell, anything old that’s not serving you any longer is coming up to be healed and released. Change is the order of the day, whether you like it or not. Actually, it seems like whatever is coming up to be purged is likely to be the beginning of a cycle that could last until 2015.

Wanting What You Don't Want
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Wanting What You Don't Want

I’ve noticed a curious phenomenon among women who’ve recently left a relationship. Full disclosure: I did this myself once when I was in college. This strange thing happens where all of a sudden this guy, whom you’ve decided is not “the One,” becomes desirable again. Not in an “OMG how did I not notice how hot you are” kind of way, but in an “I don’t want you but I don’t want someone else to have you just yet” kind of way.

Sex Toys 101
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Sex Toys 101

I received a delightful surprise in the mail the other day, and it got me thinking about sex toys. Full disclosure: I’ve been using sex toys for about 25 years now, and I love them. I like using them when I’m alone, but I LOVE using them with my partner. They’re just part of our repertoire, some go-to items whenever we get into a little sexual rut. But I realize that not everyone is like me, and that some of my readers may be sex toy virgins or newbies. So here’s a rundown of the more common varieties.

The Pain Of Injustice
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The Pain Of Injustice

In my continued contemplations about the seven dwarves of smallness, I have been thinking about injustice and punishment this past week. This is dwarf number five, and his mantra is “I will be punished for speaking my truth because life is unfair.” (if you want to read the others, go to http://romancerecovery.com/blog/ This dwarf shows up, as they all do, in a number of ways. Some relate directly to romantic relationships, while others affect your work life and other relationships. Here are some of the faces of the injustice dwarf.

Fifty Shades Of Trust
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Fifty Shades Of Trust

Last week I broke down and bought the book, Fifty Shades of Grey. OK, I bought all three in the series. I had to learn first hand what all the fuss was about. Oh my, now I know. I loved the first book, and I’m not embarrassed to admit it. It helped that I wasn’t expecting high literature. My work as a sex and relationship coach helped too; I wasn’t shocked by the more intense scenes. Specifically, I liked three things about the first novel.

Fifty Shades Of Trust
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Fifty Shades Of Trust

Last week I broke down and bought the book, Fifty Shades of Grey. OK, I bought all three in the series. I had to learn first hand what all the fuss was about. Oh my, now I know. I loved the first book, and I’m not embarrassed to admit it. It helped that I wasn’t expecting high literature. My work as a sex and relationship coach helped too; I wasn’t shocked by the more intense scenes. Specifically, I liked three things about the first novel.

Betrayal: The Fourth Dwarf of Smallness
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Betrayal: The Fourth Dwarf of Smallness

For the past few weeks, I’ve been writing about what I call the Seven Dwarves of Smallness. These little gremlins in your subconscious mind conspire to keep you small. They tell you all sorts of reasons why you can’t have, be, and do what you really want. They’re full of lies, but we believe them. They are the sons and daughters of FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.

Recovering From Infidelity
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Recovering From Infidelity

One of the most common reasons couples split up is because of infidelity. For many people, infidelity is a hard limit: no second chances allowed, the relationship is over, period. The end. Nothing stirs up the core wound of betrayal faster than discovering your partner had an affair. The core wound of betrayal is one of seven core wounds we all work through as we grow in our relationships and in consciousness. (You can learn more about the core wounds here)

Scarcity Is A Lie
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Scarcity Is A Lie

For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been writing about what I call the Seven Dwarves of Smallness. These little gremlins in your subconscious mind conspire to keep you small. They tell you all sorts of reasons why you can’t have, be, and do what you really want. They’re full of lies, but we believe them. They are the sons and daughters of FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.

5 Ways Abandonment Issues Can Ruin Your Relationships
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5 Ways Abandonment Issues Can Ruin Your Relationships

A few months ago I introduced readers to the Seven Dwarves of Smallness. Others call them your demons, but I think that gives them too much power. The Seven Dwarves are the gatekeepers to your soul. They are there to protect who you really are. I'm here to stick up for them, because the truth is, they have a very important job. They were put in place to keep your greatest gifts safe from harm.