TERRI TRESPICIO'S BLOG

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Hooking up is a snack, not a meal.
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Why Casual Hookups Are Leaving You Completely Malnourished

Kate Taylor's piece in the New York Times, "Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game Too", caused quite a stir by putting a sexy new slant on hook-up culture: It's women in control, not men, who are driving the trend. But hooking up cannot replace or come close to fulfilling the human need for real connection. It doesn't make us smarter, stronger or more in control to avoid connection and intimacy. It doesn't set us up to be better or happier than the women who came before us. It just sets us up to be disappointed in a different way.

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"Like Peter Pan, or Superman, you will come to save me." - Aimee Mann
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Feminist Or Not, Why Every Woman Wants To Sleep With A Superhero

It's pretty clear why men fantasize about being superheroes: they're strong, powerful and revered. It wasn’t until I allowed myself to be open, to be vulnerable, that I found I could enjoy the very thing a man wants to be—strong, masculine, confident. My hero. That to allow a man be what he strives to be doesn't take away from who I am or what I can do. And I know I'm not alone in this.

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'American Hustle' is the top date night movie, according to a Match.com survey.
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We're All Con Artists: 5 Love Lessons From 'American Hustle'

'American Hustle' — nominated for 10 Academy Awards and voted the #1 date movie of all this year's Best Picture nominees — is also a fascinating study in love and relationships. Here are four profound things this film brought to light about love, life and what we all do to get by.

time marriage app: TIME's Offensive New Marriage App Is A Blessing In Disguise
You're probably more upset with yourself than the actual app.
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Why You Should Thank TIME's New Marriage App For Trolling You

Last week, a new Time magazine Facebook app sent women into an uproar by daring to suggest when they "should" be getting married. The app purports to mine the Facebook data of you and your friends and plug that information into handy graph that tells you, meddling mom-style, when you should get (or should have gotten) married. But like any good wake-up call—even an intrusive app that is trying to troll single women and scare them into submission—will make sure you're spending your time wisely.

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One tip? Heat things up with a warming lubricant.
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How To Stimulate All Five Senses Through Couples' Massage

We asked three prominent massage practitioners to spill the beans on what it takes to stage an at-home environment so serene, so sexy, it borders on sensory overload. So grab your significant other and your best massage oils, and read on: You're about to get a crash course in the practice of pleasure.

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It's gonna take a little more effort than that, honey.
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'The Secret' To The Law Of Attraction? It's A Bunch Of B.S.

It's been seven years since the publication of the wildly popular self-help book 'The Secret'. The principle at the book's core—the Law of Attraction—still holds many under its Vulcan mind-meld grip. I can see why: Who wouldn't want to believe that all you have to do is think the right thoughts and the love of your dreams will find you? But key premises of the Law of Attraction can do you more harm than good in the search for love and partnership. Here's why.

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What if it was the bride, not the groom, who wrote this article?
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'Marriage Isn't For You' Guy Earns Praise For Not Being A Jerk

The post is called 'Marriage Isn't For You', and it's gotten 24 million views and counting. Basically, a dude says, "Look what I did! I realized I'm not the center of the world!" and he's catapulted to internet stardom and met with instant, widespread praise. But this isn't really about love; it's about control.