When my boyfriend told me, just shy of our one-year anniversary, that he didn't want a girlfriend anymore, I almost choked on my savory pork belly dish and $12 cocktail. My girlfriends rose to the occasion, but it was the advice of a married, middle-aged dude that changed the course of my fate. He said that if I wanted to get different results, I had to change my behavior, trust him implicitly and do exactly as he said. Who was he to tell me who I am and how to date? His words were harsh. He was aggressive, obnoxious, cocky. And he was right.
Matchmaker Hellen Chen may have found the secret to marriage: Imagine if the good stuff wasn't the appetizer, but the main meal. Think of how differently your romantic life would be if you could enjoy all the sexy fun of dating without wondering "where this is going" — because you're already there.
'American Hustle' — nominated for 10 Academy Awards and voted the #1 date movie of all this year's Best Picture nominees — is also a fascinating study in love and relationships. Here are four profound things this film brought to light about love, life and what we all do to get by.
Last week, a new Time magazine Facebook app sent women into an uproar by daring to suggest when they "should" be getting married. The app purports to mine the Facebook data of you and your friends and plug that information into handy graph that tells you, meddling mom-style, when you should get (or should have gotten) married. But like any good wake-up call—even an intrusive app that is trying to troll single women and scare them into submission—will make sure you're spending your time wisely.
Somewhere along the line, the concept of couples' massage has been, shall we say, mishandled. Far from a cursory back rub or 50-yard-dash to getting it on, real couples massage is an art.
We asked three prominent massage practitioners to spill the beans on what it takes to stage an at-home environment so serene, so sexy, it borders on sensory overload. So grab your significant other and your best massage oils, and read on: You're about to get a crash course in the practice of pleasure.
It's been seven years since the publication of the wildly popular self-help book 'The Secret'. The principle at the book's core—the Law of Attraction—still holds many under its Vulcan mind-meld grip. I can see why: Who wouldn't want to believe that all you have to do is think the right thoughts and the love of your dreams will find you? But key premises of the Law of Attraction can do you more harm than good in the search for love and partnership. Here's why.
The post is called 'Marriage Isn't For You', and it's gotten 24 million views and counting. Basically, a dude says, "Look what I did! I realized I'm not the center of the world!" and he's catapulted to internet stardom and met with instant, widespread praise. But this isn't really about love; it's about control.
So now we know that Stephanie Smith — who told the world she's a mere 124 sandwiches away from an engagement ring — is actually embarrassed by the whole incident. She went on the Today Show and basically said, "Geez guys, it was a joke." And I'm saddened by that, because she backed down and surrendered her power. Here's why that sends the wrong message to her detractors — and why her 300 sandwiches ploy wasn't the disgrace to feminism that everyone's making it out to be.
If you're a single woman like me, I'm sure you've heard this refrain more than once: "But you're so smart/pretty/fun/great. Why aren't you married?" I have to admit I've puzzled over this for a while myself. At a certain age, odds are you're tempted to think it means there's something wrong with you. Well, it's time to put the pity party to an end and look at the facts. Love is a wonderful thing. But marriage isn't for everyone, and that's more than okay. Here's why.