In all the years that we have been saying to clients, "Intentions equal results," this past couple weeks was the first time the concept of "setting intentions" really seemed to resonate with people. Instead of setting resolutions, sites like Facebook were ablaze with people setting their intentions for the year.
You are who are you are right now because of everything you've experienced to this point. Take it, embrace it and build your life based on who you are with no regrets. Define yourself according to you not someone else. Here's how to start.
Are you in a relationship in your personal or professional life with someone who is constantly and consistently critical? No matter what you do there’s always an element of something wrong with it? Bullies come in all shapes and forms and are very prevalent at home, in families, and in the workplace. They often leave us speechless and feeling helpless. Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Post-divorce is no time to be thinking with your heart. Yep, your heart is bruised and battered and you feel disillusioned by everything that's unfolded. Perhaps you feel like you were run over by a truck. Still, you have to think with your head.
A good friend of mine told me a while back that if I couldn’t articulate in my mind what it was I wanted for my life I would never get it. She was right. It’s not that I don’t know what I want for my life even though most of us can articulate what we don’t want a lot easier than what we do want. Once we say it, think it, or write it down, it’s tangible…it’s out there, and we can no longer ignore it. It’s not a matter of being self-centered. It’s saying I will no longer settle for what comes my way. I want to choose.
"WHO is that sitting across from me on the other side of the table? And who have I become through all this?" you might ask yourself.... So you want a divorce. You’ve made that decision. Or maybe you don’t want a divorce but find yourself in the middle of one anyway. It doesn’t matter whether or not you were the instigator. What matters is you have to be on top of every minute of the process and design a life for yourself, for your future, at the same time. No matter how amicable, it’s not going to be easy.
What ARE you thinking? Time to stop and reflect on what's really working and not working in your life starting with your mindset and POS or Personal Operating System. While I was waiting for my client, I reflected on some of the observations I was making with regards to conversations going on, emotional triggers, wondering about behavioral drivers, automatic responses, levels of disinterest and stated perceptions. People are fascinating. It's extraordinary to observe and coach people in action.