Since Valentine’s Day is synonymous with seduction, I thumbed through some books on the art of seduction at the bookstore. One book suggested I dress in lingerie and have a friend take pictures of me. Then, after developing the film (um, I am going to take this film to what photo lab?), I should slip the picture into my partner’s lunch box or briefcase.
I read a depressing statistic: 64% of men in the U.S. do not make plans for Valentine’s Day. To add insult to injury, 15% of women in the U.S. send themselves flowers on the “magical” day of love. It started me thinking about why men are unwilling participants in Valentine’s Day. Did it mean the other 36% of men who plan a date are being dragged by their heels through the Valentine’s Day frou-frou just so they do not get into trouble?
I’ll never forget my first son’s six week postpartum checkup. As my OBGYN inserted fingers lathered with KY jelly she said, “The might feel uncomfortable. Sometimes women’s vaginas go into a menopausal-like state if they are breastfeeding fulltime. This may make intercourse uncomfortable.”
Whatever happened to the fine art of flirting? To flirt with someone is simply to make them feel beautiful. Natural and unconscious flirts do it equally with men and women. They smile, make eye contact, unabashedly laugh at jokes, and appropriately touch. How in heaven’s name could that be construed as anything but wonderful?
The next chapter in my life’s story is to give my relationship a big dose of TLC. It was the reason why I created this Six Month Sex Challenge: to make my relationship and intimacy a priority. But it seems what this challenge has really done so far is highlight all the relationship cracks that need mending.
Sex with an ex: good idea to keep your sexual juices flowing during the transition time, or bad mistake that will keep you messed up for a longer period of time? As every breakup is different, doing some analysis might save you heartache when your libido takes over your brain.
Of the billions of people on this planet, you have a unique libido. Your life experience and stage of life create the ebb and flow of your sexuality. Your sexual uniqueness becomes like a thumbprint. When you become coupled, it is a matter of working with two people’s sexual thumbprints. This is where things can get complicated because the natural ebb and flow of two people’s thumbprints rarely coincide.
The sweater fit—yes it was tight, but tight in all the right places. When I showed my husband, he looked like a hungry wolf ready to eat me up. In that moment, I was taken aback that he saw me as a sexy and sexual woman. Right now, I look in the mirror and all I can see is frump girl—to be fair, it’s because I’m not making any efforts and I am a frump girl.