To end the “All-about-my husband’s-Valentine-month-Sexpalooza”, I decided to give him a little porn treat. Pirates 2: Stagnetti’s Revenge, is a porn spoof of the movie Pirates of the Caribbean. It’s a four disk “collectors” set and has received a lot of positive hype.
Unfortunately many women get their sex education from romance novels or media and assume that every woman will: “Immediately explode with pleasure as his rock hard python enters her.” Truth is, contrary to pop-culture belief, not all women can have a vaginal and g-spot orgasm. This is due to her genetics and not because she’s uptight and/ or doing something wrong during sex.
As I’m getting my fill of intimacy from interactions with my children, my husband, meanwhile, sits in the wings waiting for me to throw him an intimacy bone. It’s not that I don’t want to share intimate experiences with my husband or that I don’t feel I have the capacity to take in any more of these wonderful feelings. Plain and simple: I’m already intimately satiated.
It turns out both were masturbating almost daily, at about the same time in the evening without their partner knowing. To top it off, neither wanted the other to know what they were up to because they were too ashamed of their behavior. My philosophy is not to keep secrets in a relationship. I told them the jig was up. Their next step was to tell each other what had been transpiring for over three years.
Knowing he was in for a Valentine’s surprise my husband casually said, “Let me know if I should cancel a hockey game.” Cancel hockey??!?! Him playing hockey (four times a week) is sacrosanct. He must have been really, really excited about his Valentine’s Day surprise. His enthusiasm made me want to make it an even more special time. When it came time to use the Tenga Flip…it didn’t quite work out.
I have always been perplexed at why so many men do not get seduction. Consequently, I went in search of what seduction education is available to men. I hunted high and low in books, on the internet and in magazines, for information on how men are supposed to seduce women. I was appalled to find these materials had little or nothing to do with female seduction. Instead, they were full of tidbits on sexual technique—which is quite different from seduction technique.
In honor of Valentine’s Day I decided to treat my sweetheart (that would be my husband) to three weeks of fun. It’s an all-about-him sex palooza. Decided to get a male perspective on what men would like. Naturally called on my friend and Sexologist, Dr. Brian Parker, owner of Forever Pleasure.com an on-line high end toy company.
Since university—while living on spaghetti and adrenaline—I’ve had a draw full of beautiful, expensive lingerie. It cusped on obsession. And this was before the Victoria Secret took the world by storm. In my twenties, I swore up, down and sideways that unless it had to do with period-panties, I would NEVER, ever wear cotton undies.
Sex? Really? This Week? This is the first time since I started this Six Month Sex Challenge that I really couldn’t stand the thought of sex or anything it takes to create intimacy with my partner. I refuse to feel guilty about it—because the guilt can easily send me into a depressive tailspin.