Unemployment is stressful. Here are 6 tips for saving your relationship.
Today's job market has many couples well aware of the strain unemployment can put on a relationship. Constant stress can cause fights, break up an otherwise healthy relationship, and really put "for better or worse" to the test. Often, coping with this anxiety and pressure can be just as taxing for the employed spouse as it is for the one who is out of work. But this doesn't have to be the case. Instead of letting unemployment destroy your relationship, allow it to strengthen your bond as a couple. We show you how to cope:
Sometimes, the hardest part of the date is knowing how to follow up afterward.
And you thought the pre-date anxiety was the hardest part? Think again. Any serial dater knows the most infuriating time in the early stages of a relationship is the 24–48 hours that follow the first date.
5 steps for balancing your career and your relationship.
No one ever said managing a career was easy. Throw a relationship into the mix and you've got career suicide, right? Wrong. While we'd all love to forgo a day of work in exchange for a fun-filled day with our significant other, having a strong relationship doesn't mean your occupational goals have to suffer. It's quite the opposite!
Extensive research on the subject of relationships and careers shows that people in successful relationships not only make more money, they're healthier, live longer, and get more promotions than singles do. So how can you juggle your relationship and your career?
We've got the five tips that’ll keep your work and love life harmonious—and YOU sane!
From one jungle to another—how to apply dating strategies to the workplace.
When I lost my job, the last thing I needed was a blank social calendar and empty bed. There's only so much disappointment one girl can take. This modern-day Dorothy wanted to click her heels and have the perfect profession and pillow pal land right into her lap. Was that too much to ask? Maybe not. Nicole Williams says you can snag both with the same advice.
In her newest book, Girl on Top, Williams suggests the tactics used to land a man can also be applied effectively in the office. Can classic dating rules help you climb the career ladder? After all, the game's the same, right?
A list of the most scandalous work affairs, how they started, and their aftermath.
Workplace romances are hardly uncommon. After all, you're probably clocking in more hours at the office than at home. It's easy to develop close on-the-job relationships that can take a romantic turn. But what often starts as a titillating romp in the supply room can quickly turn into a train wreck, endangering your career and your future. Are you willing to chance it? If so, you're not alone. Celebrities, politicians and high powered executives have been known to risk everything for an on-the-job fling.
Important online dating tips from two women who have tried it. Maybe the push you need to sign up!
Online dating. Yes. We said it. And, as it so happens, we've done it, too.
The once super taboo, let's-come-up-with-another-story-about-how-we-met form of meeting people is becoming ever more popular in a culture that has less and less free time and fewer real opportunities to be introduced to the right people. We do everything else online—so why not meet people there, too?
To all you single-and-looking ladies out there who might think, "Uh, I'm not sure if I'm ready for that," hopefully we can help ease you into it. Because as weirded out as our parents (and even our own friends) may be by the idea, the Matches, eHarmonys, and OKCupids of the dating realm will only become ever more prevalent in the coming years, especially for working—and over-worked—professionals.
What's more, your pool of singletons has grown even larger in the past year, thanks to an economy-in-shambles. With less money to spend on entertainment (and let's face it, more time at home for those unlucky enough to have lost their jobs), people are spending more and more time online than out and about. Instead of their local watering hole, singles are perusing the online personals for dates.
What does this mean for you? It means you've got more talent to choose from than ever before. And when it comes to finding your match, choice means the difference between swooning and settling.
Keeping a relationship healthy means performing routine checkups. Here's how.
Every smart woman knows that making time for an annual physical is a commonsense priority for optimal health. If we were to do the same thing for our relationships, they would stay healthy and strong too. So, if you've never thought about it, I encourage you to think about it. What would your relationship checkup include? How healthy is your marriage?
I think about it around the end of the year, as opposed to the first of the year when others are making resolutions for this, that, or the other. The end of the year really works well for me because I'm pensive, and very goal-oriented. Having specific goals for all of the important relationships in my life helps me to manage myself in these relationships—especially my marriage. Now, these aren't engraved in stone, but serve more as guides that help me in my desire to be intentional in my behavior rather than reactionary.
A relational checkup is really nothing more than your intentional effort to stay positively connected in your relationship. And, one of the things you can do is to attend to how you talk together as a couple. This is a very powerful and protective strategy for your relationship. Including it in your relationship checkup process can yield big short and long-term results.
The value of a friend's hug and other benefits of non-sexual touch.
When we're hungry, it's simple—we eat. When we're thirsty, we drink. But what about when you just want to and need to be touched? There are no touch cafés. Touch doesn't come as a gift with purchase at the Lancôme counter. And if you're not in a romantic relationship, how do you fill up your touch tank to full?
There are often not enough outlets for affection in platonic relationships. Friends provide emotional support, memorable nights out, advice and adventures, but few friendships are so close that it's comfortable and acceptable for you two to, say, snuggle on the couch together, or hold each other in a longer-than-usual embrace—one long enough to communicate sincerity but short enough not to be awkward. The line becomes especially blurred if you're of compatible sexual orientations, because, oh my god, then it must mean you like each other.
But wanting to be touched is a basic human need. (Without it, we're so much more susceptible to depression, stress, anxiety, loss in self-confidence and loss in drive and motivation!) And sadly though not surprisingly, we live in a touch-deprived culture that’s comfortable with touch only if it has sexual meaning, if we're celebrating, if someone is consoling or being consoled, or if it involves raising our kids.
Dating at work can be dangerous, consider these 6 tips before starting an office fling.
As many red flags as the office romance waves, it actually can make a lot of sense. Spending a good chunk of our waking hours around the same people naturally allows us to get to know them better and become more comfortable talking, joking, laughing — maybe even flirting.
But when you date someone in your office, it can become more and more difficult to leave your relationship drama at home where it belongs. Why? Because it follows you on your commute. And what if steamy encounters of undeniable chemistry tempt you out of your super-professional comfort zone … and into the HR department for a talk about the office's dating policy? Keeping work professional and keeping what's personal exciting is something most sensible women opt not to put on their to-do list.
But there's no denying that it can happen. So here are the red flags to remember before making your move, and how to handle it once (or if!) you do.
