Loving yourself is a prerequisite for co-creating a loving relationship. Pinkee here~ For those of you out there who are single, or who may be in relationship, today I am going to address the issue of loving yourself. As we have said many times on the show, it is a prerequisite for co-creating a loving relationship. In particular, I want to talk about how you can love your physical body.
Pinkee here~ We all have expectations in relationships. Where do they come from? They come from our earliest memories of fairy tales. The come from what we learned from our parents or other primary caregivers. They come from the media- television, movies, and advertising. In an sense, it doesn’t matter where they come from- the point is, we have them.
Pinkee here~ All of life is based on cycles. If you really think about it, it’s true. The days and nights, the growth cycle of plants, the seasons, the tides, a woman’s menstrual cycle. Women in general seem to be more in tune with the cycles of life. They tend to go with the flow, and bring themselves into harmony with what is more easily than men. No judgment here. Just stating what is. And as always, I’m talking in general. Of course there are exceptions to every rule.
Pinkee here~ In my ongoing theme on grief, today I am going to write about healthy grieving. What does it look like? It is you staying home and sulking for days, weeks, or months, continuously? Is it you yelling, slamming things, or crying once for a half hour, saying “glad that’s over” and then moving on? Is it you deciding that you must not enjoy anything in life ever again because that would be mean you didn’t really love the person you’ve lost? Nope, none of the above.
Pinkee here~ Once that final decision has been made to cut the cord of a relationship, whether it was mainly your idea or the other person’s, you will have feelings that need to be felt and expressed. You do have a choice. You can choose to grieve or not. Basically there are two types of not grieving. The first type may look like grieving, but it’s really not.
Pinkee here~ Many times the things I blog about coincide with the things that are going on in my personal life. I would say that many good writers and musicians work that way. It brings more passion to their work. Well, this week I’m going to blog about breaking up, because that’s what I’m doing in my life right now. Or, rather, I’m going to talk about some important learning I have had over the past several months. I want to share it with all of you, because, along the lines of the myths Lila and I have been writing about,
Pinkee here~ Recently I posted about couples’ meditation. The purpose of meditation is to release resistance. Resistance can be defined as all the negative thoughts and feelings which interfere with your being in your natural state. In other words, your ego. Your natural state, on the other hand, is one of joy, love, and truth. It is your God(ess) given birthright- but how much time do we spend in that state, really?
Pinkee here~ Last week, I wrote about Synergistic Energy Exchange, or S.E.X. It’s when two or more people work together cooperatively to create an exchange of energy. (Wait, is “work” really the right word here? Let me know if you come up with a better one.) As you may remember, I said that S.E.X.
Pinkee here~ Lately Lila has been blogging about myths a lot. Well here’s another one I’d like to dismantle: “If you really loved me you’d know what I want and you’d just do it.” For years, I have been thinking how silly it is that other people subscribe to this one. Then just recently I caught myself believing in it too. Perhaps you also have a hidden belief about this that even you don’t know about.
Meditation is a wonderful practice that I strongly recommend for everyone. Ten minutes a day is all it takes. There are quite a few fabulous benefits to meditation: clear thinking, better sleep, improved mood, increased intuition, more energy, less anxiety — just to name a few. So even if you are single, I suggest that you start meditating every day. If you are partnered perhaps either you haven’t felt as connected as you used to or things are going great but you want to make them even better. In either case, meditating together daily, or as often as possible, could make a big difference in the quality of your relationship.
