When people comment on infidelity on sites like this one, the most frequent reaction I read is "If he/she cheats on me, it's the end of the marriage/relationship, I quit!" Well… you know what? That's what you think but I only half believe it. It's a theoretical answer to a theoretical situation, but when it really happens, things are totally different.
It must be my culture that’s more Latin-European (and then cosmopolitan due to travelling and working in a multicultural environment) than North-American – Anglo-Saxon but, really, for me the modern concept of “dating” sucks. To be honest I’m not even sure to fully understand it, I mean where’s the line between “dating someone” and “having a relationship”? At what specific moment does a date become a gf/bf (apparently people have sex with their date but don’t consider themselves yet in a relationship)? So I looked up dictionaries for a better grasp of the concept, but traditional dictionaries don’t really give a great insight. Wikipedia, though has a full article about Dating and here’s how it is defined there:
Bare some physiological dysfunctions, I believe that what makes people struggle to have an enjoyable sexual life are their misconceptions, rather than ‘technical’ issues. Among them is this idea that the finality of having sex is systematically to reach an orgasm. ‘How could that be considered as a misconception??’ I hear you ask, your eyebrows rising. Yeah, it is a deep one. Just think of this: orgasm is the moment when you are the less connected, interacting with your partner, actually you are out of control, dealing with the overwhelming sensations exploding in your own body and that leaves little room to be thinking about anything/anyone else; orgasm is the selfish moment of sexual intercourse while the whole point of eroticism is selflessness. Moreover, orgasms as they last a very short time (fortunately! If orgasms would last minutes, they would be quite unhealthy, even deadly!), are not what you remember from a sexual intercourse.
