Inside An NYC Sex Club

The founders of NYC sex party Chemistry reveal what goes on behind closed doors.

Meet KennyBlunt and SheilaMonster—a sexually adventurous married couple with a shared appreciation for Burning Man and burlesque. Frustrated with the limitations of the traditional "swinging" scene they experienced at sex parties, the duo formed an exclusive N.Y.C. sex party called Chemistry. The couple place ambiance at a premium—Chemistry books burlesque acts and "awesome" DJs for the event -- and its locale in rented Brooklyn loft spaces is both elegant and welcoming. "People can walk in jeans and sneakers or tuxedos and be equally comfortable," says Sheila. Tango sat down with Kenny and Sheila to discuss the party, the meaning of "lifestyle," and the ways sex clubs can rev up your sex life.

In Defense Of Monogamy

When it comes to romantic commitments, less can be more.

Open relationships: sounds cool, right? You get the benefits of monogamy (security, stability, love) without the challenges (sexual fidelity). But openness (also known as polyamory or open marriage) isn't all it's cracked up to be, and being monogamous doesn't mean you're old fashioned. One writer tried both, and came to believe that, "openness is an orientation just like homosexuality -- and like our sexual orientations, some of us are wired to prefer monogamy, and there's nothing to be ashamed about."