One man reveals where and how to find a good man, the man of your dreams. And guess what? It's not as hard as it sounds. Finding a good man boils down to defining "good" on your own terms, finding your passions and living a life that makes you feel happy. Join clubs and organizations around your hobbies and interests, live your life and don't worry too much about it. Guys are attracted to women who seem relaxed and happy. And keep an open mind. While you should know what a "good man" means to you, don’t get so set in your expectations that you miss the opportunities right in front of you.
To settle or not to settle -- it's the single girl question of the year. Over at The Frisky, blogger Natalie Krinsky ponders the question: "When does compromise and understanding turn into settling?" Earlier this year, a writer for The Atlantic Monthly made waves when she urged women to marry and procreate with 'Mr. Good-Enough' instead of holding out for something better. In a piece titled "Marry Him!," Lori Gottlieb argued in favor of settling from a practicality point-of-view: rather than delaying marriage and childbearing for a 'Mr. Perfect' (who may or may not arrive atop a white horse), marry someone who you can see being a good -- if not completely ideal -- marriage partner.
Trumping news of war, health, food, pets or fashion, the most e-mailed item currently on The New York Times' site is Maureen Dowd's column from July 6 called "An Ideal Husband." In light of celebrity divorces stealing recent headlines, Dowd turned to a man whose motto on marriage would have to be "Do as I say, not as I do": a Catholic priest.
At some point in a woman's life, provided she's single long enough, she'll come to know what one could call dating burnout. It's like the possibility of finding Mr. Right has cried "wolf" one too many times. She's had enough of engaging third dates that never lead to number four, months-long relationships where commitment talk is taboo and otherwise feeling like she's settling for someone against her gut instinct--just because he's there. Hopeful becomes skeptical, so that when a seemingly "good guy" comes along, warning flags abound: "uh oh, we've been here before."
I've slept with my share of guys... I think it's around 20, and I'm almost 30. Every age group from 19 to 42...different races...but why am I still not ready to settle down and commit to one guy? I want to commit but I'll still feel like I'm missing out on something. Maybe because I was loyal in an unhappy marriage from 20 to 26? Or maybe because i just haven't found the right guy yet who makes me want to forsake all others?
Not everyone needs a Valentine. In fact, in a lot of ways you're better off without one. Did you know that single women: do less housework, earn more money, gain less weight, and orgasm more often from masturbating than their married friends? On top of that, they don't have to pretend to like gifts and can find Mr. Right any time they want...
My friends and I seem to take dating a lot more seriously than our mothers did. Perhaps too seriously. We obsess about every interaction, overanalyze each conversation. As much as we crave relationships, they also scare the everloving crap out of us because we have all seen what can happen when a woman makes the wrong choice… I think it's vital to spend a long time getting to know someone before you commit to a life with him. But the constant analysis doesn't leave a girl with much hope of walking into a room one day and being love-struck, the way my mother was. Or so I always thought.
How do you know if he's The One? The one you'll be with forever, the one you want to marry, your one true love? Do soul mates really exist? Professional matchmaker Rachel Greenwald investigates the search for Mr. Right. "How does anyone ever know who's right for them in the long run? Everywhere I go, I meet smug married couples who love to relate the moment they 'just knew' they'd found their life partners. As far as I'm concerned, it's revisionist history; if the marriage in question has worked out so far, they say they acted on their rock solid gut. But if it ended in divorce, they confess to earlier doubts. To be frank, I don't believe anyone can really know this kind of information for sure—and I speak not just from my college relationship, or from all my years as a dating coach, but from reflecting back on my own 1992 wedding."