You've gone through a breakup and cried some tears. But you're starting to see a glimpse of sunlight through the drawn curtains. Time to shift the energy. Tears are a great way to release sadness. It's good to let it flow...but then you need to clear that energy out. As a Reiki master, I've worked a lot with energy. The heavy sadness that comes with grieving the loss of something can hang around long after the sobbing has stopped. Here are my three favorite tools for cleaning up when you're ready to pull back the cu
MOVING ON AFTER A BREAKUP
How long has it been since you got divorced or went through an intense break-up? Do you feel like you’re A-OK again, or no? Are you confident you’ve put your grief to bed, that you've got your life and emotions well under control? The following video may – or may not – cause you to rethink your handle on your divorce/ break-up. In it, I reveal the two most common ways that women bury their feelings of loss. But the scary part is most women aren't even aware they're doing it.
This is the story of a young woman who met a man and fell in love. They were perfect for each other. In a month he confessed to her that he had never met anyone like her before and she made him feeling things he had never felt for a person before. Naturally, she felt the same way. Sounds like a typical love story, no? Sure, except it didn’t exactly end that way.
On February 13, 2011, YourTango celebrated the very first annual Break Up With Your Ex Day, a day on which we urged people to let go of painful memories, insidious social media connections and dead weight relationship baggage in an attempt to move on in both love and life. We asked you to unfollow, untag, delete, block and erase. How did YourTango readers do?
What single woman hasn't dreamt of a dating fairy swooping in to help her let go of baggage and find the happy, healthy relationship she craves? For Nadette, a 45-year-old casting director who recently ended a year-long engagement, that dream became reality. Nadette entered and won YourTango's Love Life Makeover contest, earning the privilege of taking on a 31-day love life makeover with Dr. Diana Kirschner, bestselling author and renowned relationship expert. This six-part video series documents Nadette's extraordinary journey with Dr. Diana.
Originially published on As We Write It Somewhere between the point where it ended and that point in my life where I knew I had to leave New Jersey, Sasha dragged me to Atlantic City. We walked around, we talked, we saw a fortune teller. Who in five minutes looked at me with tears in her eyes and told me that no one deserves to be as heart broken as I was. She took my hand and told me about my Bad Love...about Matt, only she referred to him as a soul mate connection and that that love had changed me forever.
When it comes to dating and relationships, everything isn't always black and white. Because of all of the variables (different personalities, history, goals, timing, etc...), one-size-fits-all advice just can't apply to EVERY situation. However, I CAN say with confidence that, during/after a breakup, there IS a healthy code of conduct that should apply to everyone, regardless of their exact circumstances.
I’m not proud of this, but I am kind of obsessed with my ex’s new girlfriend. Not in an Alicia Silverstone in “The Crush” sort of way—I am not going to trap the chick in a shed and set a hive of bees on her to attack. That would be crazy! No, I just like to look at her Facebook page sometimes. It’s been set to private ever since the day I told my ex that I suspected he was lying to me about his relationship with her. He must have told her I was onto them, because suddenly I didn’t have as much access to this mysterious girl I’d only ever met twice, who slipped in and changed my life without me noticing.
In her new book, Getting Past Your Breakup, Susan J. Elliot says that a rule of No Contact with your ex is necessary to fully heal and grieve after a tough breakup. Although she understands how difficult this notion can be (she has personal experience in the department of contacting exes), she says, "in order to truly get past your breakup, you need to separate emotionally, physically, and psychologically from the relationship, and the primary way to do that is to stop talking to your ex."Read: Stay Together or Break Up? How To Decide Now