It's official. It's over. Actually it's been over for quite some time now. Then why are you still stuck with your ex? You may think you're doing your best to move on, but somehow you just can't shimmy away from him/her. Truth be told even if you aren't in physical contact you may be fooling yourself with lots of sneaky subtle behaviors that keep you connected and prevent you from meeting someone new!
MOVING ON AFTER A BREAKUP
We get it. Breaking up with your ex and moving forward with your love life is easier said than done. That’s why, we are here to tell you how to perform an “ex-orcism” on yourself. Read on and we assure you that you will feel more confident and ready to finally stop obsessing over someone who is holding you back from finding the man you deserve.
Sometimes the recovery period after a failed relationship lasts as long as—or longer—than the relationship. The circumstances in every relationship may be different, but post-breakup emotions are as universal as the stages of grief. As part of our "Break Up With Your Ex" initiative, geared at helping readers finally let go of past loves, we asked YourTango Experts to answer the big breakup questions we've all asked.
I just wrote an article for YourTango.com, as part of their “Break Up With Your Ex” campaign. It got me thinking about how common it is for couples to break up but never really get over the relationship. They move out, but they don’t actually move on. How can you tell if you’ve moved on from a past love? Ask yourself these three things.
Many pop culture examples point to the external "breakovers" women engage in following a breakup. Is there really something to this? Can cutting our hair or buying a new outfit help us get to a place of being "over" an ex?
In the pre-Internet age, getting over an ex was pretty straightforward. You took his picture off the mantel, avoided places he might be, and gave back that comfy sweatshirt you loved sleeping in (or possibly burned it). 10 Signs You Might Need To Break Up With Your Ex Nowadays, breaking up is a lot more complicated—Facebook and Twitter provide you with up-to-the-minute details about your ex's new life, your cell phone is full of pictures of the two of you together and your iTunes playlist still houses the "For My Greatest Love" playlist.
You’ve removed any pre-breakup photos from your frames, packed up every picture, re-gifted your teddy bears and torn up your love notes! So why after virtually erasing your ex... are you still struggling to mend your broken heart? Despite your efforts to rid your environment of every physical aspect of your ex, relationships leave you with emotional inventory that can’t be cleared with a keystroke like the history cache on your computer.
What happens if you can't stop thinking about your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? If the relationship ended badly, how are you supposed to move on to a positive dating future? And, how do you keep the ghosts of your exes out of your new relationship? Will Men Date Divorced Women?
Believe me, I understand how strong the impulse to engage is, but you will be so proud of yourself when you resist it. Every single woman I spoke with reported how satisfied she felt when finally tak- ing control of this behavior. I know you can do this and I promise that you will feel relieved and powerful. Following these suggestions will help you break free. Quiz: Are You the One for Me?
Has your relationships taken a sudden turn for the worse? Do you argue about every little thing? So now you're ready to escape this thing you once called a relationship. I will admit there is no easy way to end a relationship, especially if it involves children. Moving on and letting go is a task that shouldn't be taken lightly. There is a healing process that needs to take place so the emotional baggage doesn't follow you on to the next relationship. Here are my steps on how to escape a relationship gone bad.
You've gone through a breakup and cried some tears. But you're starting to see a glimpse of sunlight through the drawn curtains. Time to shift the energy. Tears are a great way to release sadness. It's good to let it flow...but then you need to clear that energy out. As a Reiki master, I've worked a lot with energy. The heavy sadness that comes with grieving the loss of something can hang around long after the sobbing has stopped. Here are my three favorite tools for cleaning up when you're ready to pull back the cu
How long has it been since you got divorced or went through an intense break-up? Do you feel like you’re A-OK again, or no? Are you confident you’ve put your grief to bed, that you've got your life and emotions well under control? The following video may – or may not – cause you to rethink your handle on your divorce/ break-up. In it, I reveal the two most common ways that women bury their feelings of loss. But the scary part is most women aren't even aware they're doing it.
This is the story of a young woman who met a man and fell in love. They were perfect for each other. In a month he confessed to her that he had never met anyone like her before and she made him feeling things he had never felt for a person before. Naturally, she felt the same way. Sounds like a typical love story, no? Sure, except it didn’t exactly end that way.
On February 13, 2011, YourTango celebrated the very first annual Break Up With Your Ex Day, a day on which we urged people to let go of painful memories, insidious social media connections and dead weight relationship baggage in an attempt to move on in both love and life. We asked you to unfollow, untag, delete, block and erase. How did YourTango readers do?
What single woman hasn't dreamt of a dating fairy swooping in to help her let go of baggage and find the happy, healthy relationship she craves? For Nadette, a 45-year-old casting director who recently ended a year-long engagement, that dream became reality. Nadette entered and won YourTango's Love Life Makeover contest, earning the privilege of taking on a 31-day love life makeover with Dr. Diana Kirschner, bestselling author and renowned relationship expert. This six-part video series documents Nadette's extraordinary journey with Dr. Diana.
Originially published on As We Write It Somewhere between the point where it ended and that point in my life where I knew I had to leave New Jersey, Sasha dragged me to Atlantic City. We walked around, we talked, we saw a fortune teller. Who in five minutes looked at me with tears in her eyes and told me that no one deserves to be as heart broken as I was. She took my hand and told me about my Bad Love...about Matt, only she referred to him as a soul mate connection and that that love had changed me forever.
When it comes to dating and relationships, everything isn't always black and white. Because of all of the variables (different personalities, history, goals, timing, etc...), one-size-fits-all advice just can't apply to EVERY situation. However, I CAN say with confidence that, during/after a breakup, there IS a healthy code of conduct that should apply to everyone, regardless of their exact circumstances.