Cohabiting is often thought of as a test of sorts—a chance to see if a relationship will work long-term before deciding to walk down the aisle. But even if a couple chooses not to take the plunge, entering Splitsville isn't any easier. Cohabiting breakups echo with that tough little d-word.
MOVING IN TOGETHER
Once you're sure you and your boyfriend are on the same page, let your boyfriend give his parents a list of items you've agreed to keep and a list you'd like for his parents to get rid of before you move in. For your part, you can send them a thank you note a month or so before you move in sincerely thanking them for the items you and your boyfriend have decided to keep.
How well do you really know this guy or girl you are about to marry. If you haven't asked these three questions, not as well as you need to. 20% of marriages end in the first 5 years, not because people fall out of love, but because they aren't asking deep enough questions to be sure who they are marrying will be a great partner for THEIR life. These 3 questions, will take you deeper, without scaring your beloved away!
Over the weekend, my husband and I moved from our cramped, rundown, one-bedroom apartment near crowded Times Square in Manhattan, to a spacious, gut-rehabbed, state-of-the-art two-bedroom brownstone on a quiet, tree-lined street in Brooklyn. It was a long time coming, and in the weeks leading up to the move—the very first move Drew and I have ever made together—I wondered if we'd even make it to our first wedding anniversary next month. Few things in life challenge a relationship quite like moving does, but I'm happy to report we survived the hurdle.
Reese Witherspoon and her boyfriend of four months, agent Jim Toth, are ready to live together, according to an Us Weekly source. The source says Reese and Jim are "talking about moving in together" because they "don't want to spend any time apart." Oh. Well then. That means wedding bells, obvs.
There are only two reasons why I'd move in and live with another girlfriend. We're married and determined to fill a sweatshop with our nimble-fingered love critters. Or she cracks me in the head with a shovel, sews my mouth shut, replaces my eyeballs with marbles, and sits my stuffed body in the corner. Whatever you do, don't move in with your boyfriend. What? It's too late? Sweet Zeus, Odin, and Quetzalcoatl, winged serpent god of the Aztecs! I hope your cohabitation doesn't end the way two (two!) of mine did – with helicopters launching off the roof amidst tornadoes of debris and smoke, a single individual hanging off the skids, flipping the bird to the person whose name is on the lease.
Gollum slithered around the picnic tables in a bald wig and a loincloth. Bilbo Baggins manned the barbecue. An elf with pointy ears asked if we had any veggie burgers. My boyfriend, David, and I had not come dressed for the "Lord Of The Rings" theme for his family's annual group vacation with their friends. But costumed or not, I knew I'd be under scrutiny: I'm the first woman he'd brought along to introduce to everybody in his 26 years of attending. As Gollum lumbered by towards the card table full of key lime pies and cookie burgers, I turned to David and grinned. "Real love," I said, "is spending the weekend with your parents and their friends when everyone is dressed like Hobbits." He grinned back and we kissed. Forty-eight hours later, David and I decided that we would move in together, waking up next to each other every morning and falling asleep together every night.
Joshua Jackson, whom we will try not to refer to as "Pacey" for the rest of this blog post, and his ladyfriend of three years, Troy's Diane Kruger, are shacking up in the lovely seaside city of Vancouver, People reports. We are delighted for them and not at all green with envy that they will be right next to the 2010 Olympics and also are very beautiful, talented people who are in love and probably having excellent, prolific sex with each other.
After dating actress Camilla Belle for eight months, middle Jonas brother Joe has decided it's time to be a big man and strike out on his own. In real estate terms, that is. Star magazine reports that Joe has told his roommates and brothers Kevin and Nick that he wants to get his own apartment where he and Camilla can be alone.
Men from different lovestages debate whether or not to move in with a girlfriend before marriage. Some think it spells disaster for the relationship while others are convinced it's a necessary step. Watch five guys discuss the upsides and downsides to sharing a home with your partner before saying "I do." Their answers might surprise you!
It looks like Prince William and Kate Middleton may be getting slightly more serious after 6 years of dating. Rumor has it that she is semi-officially moving in with him at his RAF base in Shropshire. This cohabitation is a far cry from the breakups that these two regularly appear to have. Not as far from breaking up as marriage, but maybe it's a start. Now what are we going to do with Prince Harry?