I am turning thirty later this year and as they say, I am not getting any younger! But I can say in the past month I have felt better about myself and where I am and where I am going in a long time. Its really easy to always look in the past, see the past failures and sob over them and think about the changes you would make. Well here is a tip: YOU CAN NOT CHANGE THEM! So now that you know that look at what you want to change in the present and in the future.
Most matchmaking services and internet dating sites are focused on the “numbers game” of dating and then eventually you’ll “Bag ‘em, Tag ‘em, and Take Home” the Right One (that’s a real quote from some of the popular dating advice out there). Here are some of my favorite quotes from random singles’ advice blogs:
So let's say you are in a long-term relationship with the guy or girl of your dreams. Or, let's say you are trying to rekindle an old relationship or you're in a situation with someone whom you have a lot of history with, but you keep sensing some things just aren't the same. In many ways it may seem that a lot of stuff from the past no longer exists in your relationship and you wonder if you can ever go back.
Are you struggling to release some of that pent up anger you’ve been feeling toward your ex? Did he betray you? Lie to you? Intentionally (at least that’s how it feels) break your heart? I get it. You are harboring some deep resentment and honestly I don’t blame you. But ask yourself, “Who are you really hurting by holding onto these feelings?”
Letting go of hurts and regrets in past relationships is one of the simplest ways to open yourself up to accept Soulmate Love as your destiny and to start magnetizing it in. Simple, but not easy! I remember hanging on energetically to a boyfriend who “did me wrong”- I was still angry for 2 YEARS after we broke up! Yeah sure, I “knew” about how important compassion and forgiveness were, but I just couldn’t seem to let my anger and hurt go.
Ruby and Jim had been dating for 11 months and were considering marriage. Ruby, 32, felt "head over heels" in love with Jim, but she had felt head over heels in love with Adam, as well as with Mark. "That feeling didn't last with Adam or Mark. How do I know it will last with Jim? How can you tell when it's the real thing?"
When a relationship is over, it's time to let go. Holding on to a past love clutters up your heart and mind. Letting go opens up the space and possibilities to attract the partner of your dreams. Try these things to stop dwelling on the relationship you had with your ex.
When your significant other does or says something that upsets you — depending on the size of the affront and the depth of your reaction — you might shut down and stop listening, especially if your partner's tone conveys judgment or derision. You may withdraw for a period of time or retaliate with criticism of your own. Either behavior results in a negative circle of energy and delays understanding and healing.
What the heck does “We are taking a break in our relationship” really mean? So many people are doing it today & how do they get away with it? It is the same as having your cake & eating it too ~ you may as well cut off a big piece & spoon feed it to them!
For one reason or another, your relationship ended and like many people, you want him or her back. You want to get who you had back and you've got a good idea of how to accomplish this monumental task. Of course, the relevant question here should be "Should you try to get your ex back?" There are good reasons and there are bad reasons to get back together with someone. It's all about examining the cause of the breakup and the reasons behind your current urge to get back together with him or her.
Sometimes loved ones die suddenly or too far away. Jobs can come to a screeching halt without warning. Natural disasters wipe out towns, turning whole lives upside down. Sudden endings happen, leaving us with words unsaid and unheard.
Is it taking you longer than you expected to get over your ex? If it's been over a year and you still feel despondent on your old anniversary, take heart: you're not alone. In this video, psychotherapist, author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov offers advice to one reader who still struggles with her breakup long after it's ended.