In "Sex and the City," the landmark 90s television series, Sarah Jessica Parker's Carrie Bradshaw character was the dream girl for millions of young women who fantasized about living in the big city, dating hot guys and wearing fabulous shoes (and not necessarily in that order). Now, Carrie appears to have grown up: Parker—as ever, enviably thin, chic, and charmingly rumpled—is starring in "I Don't Know How She Does It," which opens this weekend.
While I understand and respect that many women proudly wear their stretch marks as badges of honor or battle scars, I don’t feel the same way about mine. I am not ashamed of them, but if they don’t fade by next summer they won’t be seeing the light of day. I think of it this way: If I have a blemish, I conceal it. If I pack on a few pounds over the holidays, I conceal those too. For me, stretch marks aren’t any different, even if they are a result of my beautiful journey to motherhood.
If my husband and I aren’t careful, kid-centric talk hijacks our conversations. We talk about things they did that day. (Hilarious. Or frustrating. Usually both.) We talk about dreams for their futures. (Please let them marry non-felons.) And then usually we’re too tired to do much other than watch a re-run of The Rachel Zoe Project. I mean Mad Men.
Finding harmony after you’ve had a baby is every mom’s reality. Balancing our own passions and interests, with our added responsibilities of growing and nurturing a baby is one of the most rewarding occupations we will ever have in our lives. On the list of new job skills is parent, but if you want the baby’s father to be alongside of and with you every step of the way add sexy mom to your skill set to cultivate as well.
So, J.C. Penney apologized for its now infamous shirt that says I'm Too Pretty to Do My Homework and a spokesperson for the company told ABC News, "We've immediately discontinued sales of that T-shirt. It was only online... We agreed that the shirt does not deliver an appropriate message."
First, let me say that the kids always come first. Nonetheless, I am what one would refer to as a high-maintenance mama. Yes, I take excellent care of my skin. I get monthly facials. And yes, I taught my daughter about skin care while I was in the process of maintaining my own. I taught her not only about facial skin care, but also about using sunscreen regularly. To this day, she reminds me about applying sunscreen to the areas especially vulnerable to sun damage.
When two people love each other, nothing is better than raising a family together. That said, parents often put their parenting and career responsibilities at the top of their priority list, and allow their marriage to fall to the bottom. Most parents are on an endless treadmill of chores, meals and responsibilities, and forget to invest in nurturing each other.
Today's modern woman has taken on a lot more responsibility than ever before and is now learning to balance a career, motherhood, household upkeep and a loving relationship. How is it possible to evenly give attention to each one of these daily occurrences?
How does the stress of being a busy mom affect us? We overeat, do not exercise, and of course our sex life goes kaput, as does our intimacy with our partner, our confidence and our self-esteem. More and more, we see mothers suffering from the deadly disease of perfectionism. You assume that to "do it right," you must execute all tasks flawlessly and ignore the need for self-care. In turn, we see higher rates of exhaustion-related illnesses, low self-esteem and partner-related issues, due to mother's burn out. It's time to drop the "supermom" ideal.
Welcome to our new YourTango Expert series on motherhood and love! Women are natural givers who do their best to make sure everyone else's needs (and wants) are met, often at the expense of their own. After all, there are only 24 hours in a day, right? Our first topic is sex, because countless studies and surveys show that moms are chronically overworked and undersexed. We recently asked our experts how can mothers shift their mental energy (their attitudes and approach to sex) and their physical energy (their schedules, their bedroom routines) to help make sex more of a priority.
For most parents, children are a gift to our lives and motherhood is one of the highest callings we can have in life. But as any mom knows, it's also one of the most intense jobs in the universe. It's 24/7, non-stop and never ending.Moms the world over are in need of more than just one holiday to celebrate the intense commitment made to their children and in this week's new YourTango Experts spotlight "Motherhood & Love", our experts will share wisdom on how to juggle it all and stay not just sane, but happy!