Lila here~ I spent the weekend in NYC with a great friend. It began with the Museum of Sex at 233 Fifth Ave (at 27th St). The ground floor was all about animals and sexuality. I learned so many fun and interesting (and some slightly disturbing) things, I wanted to share a few with you. I’ll start with the disturbing thing; let’s just get that out of the way.
NPR.com published an article a few days ago titled, "Sex Without Intimacy: No Dating, No Relationships." We're all supposed to analyze whether or not stable, long-term, monogamous relationships are on the way out due to our casual college-like view of sex into adulthood.
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A group of scientists from the University of Texas think they've pinpointed a hormone that gifts women with an hourglass shape, an aura of attractiveness, and an intense desire to cheat on their boyfriends or husbands. Researchers think a hormone called oestradoil, dubbed the Marilyn Monroe hormone, is to blame for certain behaviors and physical attributes like a symmetrical face, large breasts, low waist to hip ratio, and a pattern of serial monogamy with infidelity.
Love Buzz loves a good open marriage story. This one comes from Page Six Magazine, which features the story of Neal and Claire Boulton. According to the mag, "Over the past year and a half, Neal has been portrayed in NYC gossip columns as: 1) The happily married editor in chief of Men's Fitness magazine. 2) A secretly gay guy who had an affair with Rolling Stone publisher Jann Wenner and was hospitalized after mysteriously leaving his job. 3) A bisexual, unemployed adulterer. 4) Most recently, the secretly straight but still slutty editor in chief of the gay publication Genre whose poor wife took his cheating ass back." So what's the real story? Read on to find out...
In response to a 2005 discrimination complaint filed with the New Jersey Attorney General's office, online dating site eHarmony has finally agreed to launch a new service for same-sex couples, CNN.com reports. Compatible Partners, as the new service will be called, is due in by the end of March. GoErie.com reports that police charged a 19-year old man in Florida with domestic battery after he threw a sandwich at his girlfriend while she was driving, nearly causing her to loose control of the car.
"Monogamy Is Good, And It's Here To Stay." I was leery about this piece the minute I saw the title. But as soon as I read it and saw the word "fad" used to describe the kind of relationship that I have been deliriously happy in for years (and the kind hundreds of other people I have met have been in for decades) I knew I was dealing with a classic case of fear and misunderstanding—a dangerous mix. I thought I might simply reply in the comments section, but I quickly realized that I had way too much ground to cover. So, below I have gone section by section in responding to Ms. Cline's piece.
Thinking about open marriage or non-monogamy? According to this author, monogamy and women are a good mix. "If history can teach us anything, the open relationship bandwagon will come and go, which is a good thing because most women still benefit from and prefer monogamy. Why? Women still generally do more work in relationships than men do and openness requires even more diligence than a regular relationship; women are taught to care more about relationships and risk more for them than men, so non-monogamy raises the stakes more for us. And, despite today’s female open relationship proponents, it’s men who typically initiate and prefer non-monogamy."
A single, 40-year-old man argues that, despite its challenges, monogamy is worth fighting for. He explains, "many of the reasons are obvious—the comfort, having a good-guy reputation, the regular and maybe even condom-free sex—but there are some that might surprise you." He explains, "infidelity is a symptom, not a solution. Ultimately the impulse to cheat might help you get out of a bad relationship, but first you need to see if the relationship is worth trying to hold on to. Striving for monogamy helps you get the most out of a partnership by facing the challenges head-on (the only way that works)."