I love my husband and two kids, enormously. But I love being alone, too, and for long stretches. It's what feels natural to me, a former happy loner. This was my biggest concern before getting married: could I live with someone, or several someones, for an extended time, no matter how much love was involved? To my relief, I discovered having a family, and living with them, is lovely... but only most of the time.
Why won’t your 14 year old daughter talk to you? Why, when you’ve told her over and over if she has a question about sex, she should ask you, does she never do that? I’m browsing at one of my favorite bookstores, when I overhear a teenager ask, “Mom, can I get this book?” and the Mom says “What is it?” “Umm – just a book about love” the girl replies. “Love?” Mom says, “Why do you want to know about love? Do you have a boyfriend? You know you’re not supposed to have a boyfriend until you’re finished with school.” “Mom,” the girl replies, “I just want to know about it, I don’t want to do it.” “Don’t smart mouth me, young lady,” Mom snaps at her, “And we’re not getting that book – you want to know something, you ask me, or your Dad.”
I was watching a trailer for the movie The Back-up Plan when I got to thinking. I always had a vague back-up plan in high school: If by the time I was 30 I wasn't married, I decided, I'd have a baby with a gay friend. I think a lot of us girls have had that plan, but how many have actually carried it through? I decided to ask a few friends. Maybe life doesn't work out exactly the way we want, and yet we still want children, a career, a partner or something else that hasn't quite come on the scene yet. So what are you gonna do? Sit around and lament over what you don't have? No! Life is short. You set a time frame and you say, "If this doesn't happen by this date, then I'm gonna do this, take action, make it happen for myself." I talked to some ladies who know what they want—and have back-up plans to make those dreams happen.
If you're a mom, Mother's Day is your big day—the day when no one can complain when you ask them to do something, when people are supposed to show appreciation for you, when you're (theoretically) not allowed to cook or do housework or any of those other things that always seem to fall to mom. Looking for a little something extra this Mother's Day? Here are some creative ideas on what to ask for. Because, honestly? You deserve it.
Being a parent is a central part of many women's lives, and YourTango has covered it from all perspectives: deciding when to have kids, sex after kids, trying to "have it all," and more. Below, a selection of our best posts on motherhood (and fatherhood—afterall, you can't make a baby without a father).
She's cleaned up scraped knees, wiped away tears, soothed sick tummies, offered sage advice and a little bit of coddling. She teaches right from wrong, and put up with you when no one else would. She's a (constructive?) critic and your biggest fan. She's your mom—or your wife—and there's no way you can repay her for giving birth to you—or your kids. These gifts will at least show her how much you appreciate her, whatever type of lady she is.
A columnist for The Frisky takes a break from her regularly scheduled "Sex with Susannah" programming to bring you breaking news from the "everything your mother never told you about sex" front. During the course of writing her column, receiving reader letters and writing about sex and relationships, it's come to her attention that there are some basic sex facts it would behoove everyone to know... especially the ladies.
Who doesn't want to be that special girl who can turn a big, dumb, sexy, tattoo-covered biker into a domesticated Prince Charming? We all want to be that girl, but Sandra Bullock WAS that magical girl. Not only did WE all love her, but the biggest, baddest dude in the cable biker world fell at her adorably quirky feet, while she played loving stepmother to his adorable half-stripper children. It was the fractured fairy-tale version of the American Dream. We all wanted it to work.
Move over, Brad Pitt. Make some room, Johnny Depp. Thanks to Jeremy Renner's star turn in The Hurt Locker, the single actor has become the Hollywood hunk du jour. Everyone wants to know who he's dating, if he's dating, and—most importantly—who he's taking to the Oscars this Sunday. But despite rumored romances with Charlize Theron and Jessica simpson, Jeremy will be taking his mom to the big event.
If, like us, you're always looking for somebody else to blame for your loneliness and breadstick addiction, it's a good news day for you. Two new studies show that not only are parents responsible for how you look, they may have a hand in whether or not you ever find true love.