I have learned there is no way to understand the heartbreak of miscarriage if you have not experienced such a loss first-hand. I have known women who have had miscarriages, and I rather fear that my responses were sub-par. But if you are trying to support a couple who has just miscarried or lost a child before birth, based on my short experience so far, here's a list of my suggestions for what not to say and what you can do instead.
Are you and your spouse having trouble conceiving a child? Is it starting to take a toll on your relationship? If so, help is on the way.
Divorced men with children are in the “do not touch” category of dating. I wish I read Jonathon Ashlay's in-depth article on the dangers of dating divorced men before I said yes to a date with one. Sure it sounds limiting but divorced single parents should just stick with each other. They are in the same boat and are dealing with the same complexities inherent in their situation. I came to that conclusion in 2008 when my engagement ended.
Hugh Jackson recently opened up a discussion all too often plagued with negativity and shame.
Then, last year, a week after Mother's Day, I finally figured out what authentic beauty was. On May 16th, 2011, I gave birth to and subsequently lost my daughter during my fifth month of pregnancy. During my pregnancy, I gleefully packed on 30 pounds, feeling plump and beautiful. My extraordinary weight gain became a thing of humor. I called myself the clumsy walrus on a daily basis.
What do you think about using a pregnancy surrogate, like Giuliana and Bill Rancic? A sex toy shop for Christians. Heart-broken fruit flies turn to booze. Do men really get dumber when women are around? Man attacks his wife for dumbest reason ever. A woman is not "crazy" just because she has emotions. And, what your clothes say about you.
Jay-Z has just revealed that he and Beyonce went through the horror of losing a baby as she had suffered a miscarriage before conceiving their daughter Blue Ivy.
Just three weeks ago, Selena Gomez announced that she was finally going be a big sister, and that her mom, Mandy Dawn Cornett, was expecting.
I have had three miscarriages. Each one more painful then the last. The final one came after 18 months of trying to get pregnant and 6 months before I got pregnant with my now two year old son. I'm 31 and have been married for almost 7 years to my High School Sweetheart, it's been 13 years together. I went away to college and we maintained our relationship through nightly phone conversations. After a year of dating we got engaged so it was a 5 year long engagement. We didn't have sex for the first time until we were engaged for 2 years, six months later I got pregnant.
A woman of childbearing age has a 15-20 chance that her pregnancy will end in miscarriage, according to the American Pregnancy Association. New research from England found a formula that predicts with 77 percent accuracy which pregnancies are likely to end in miscarriage.
Anger and revenge can make people do some pretty outlandish things. If you're Greg Fultz, it'll push you to post a billboard that shows your ex just how you feel. When Fultz found out that his then-girlfriend had an abortion against his wishes, he decided to put up a billboard in Alamogordo, N.M., with a picture of him cradling an outline of an infant in his arms. To make it more hard-hitting, the sign reads, "This Would Have Been a Picture of My 2-month Old Baby if the Mother Had Decided Not to Kill Our Child!"
While we appreciated all of the kind words, gestures, and reassuring hugs that followed the miscarriage, it was the strength of our marriage that got us through last summer. Looking back, I guess I am a bit surprised at how much love, support, and positive energy we provided one another. Up until this point, our relationship hadn't exactly been famous for this kind of behavior.
When I lost my second child in a second trimester miscarriage, Angelina Jolie was also pregnant, and was quoted as saying something along the lines of loving how much she felt like a woman, like her body was functioning exactly as it was designed to function. That quote left me, volatile and reeling, a sobbing mess – although to be fair, a sobbing mess pretty much describes me for the months following the miscarriage. What was wrong with my body? Why hadn’t I functioned as I was supposed to? I already had one beautiful and healthy child. What had I done wrong the second time around?
You could be doing childless couples a huge justice by refraining from an inquisition into their sex lives. Because, essentially, that's what you're doing when you push the baby issue. You're prying into their private world and poking in on their Should we or shouldn't we? Are we ready? Do we even want children? conversations.
Six years before having a child, my husband and I bought a four-bedroom colonial. With two incomes and a heady feeling that life would always keep expanding, we tended to do things big. Like holidays. Thanksgiving weekend was D-Day, when the attic yielded dozens of bins crammed with decorations—holiday towels for the bathrooms, pine boughs to wrap the banister, and holiday motif glassware, china and more. Our first son was born into this giddy, much-too-much way of decorating. hen, the September when he was 3, I had a miscarriage.
If you want to change your name, that's great (plenty of women are happy taking their husbands' names and they shouldn't be knocked for it). But if you clearly don't want to, and if you start making huge sacrifices now just to appease your man, you'll be setting up expectations for your marriage you may live to regret.