"Having it All" and "Lean IN", are the new hot ticket buzz words these days coming from Sheryl Sandberg's, Facebook’s COO, latest book Lean In. In my view Sandberg gives us some insightful observations and misses some fundamentals.
In the immortal words of famed rapper Jay-Z, No matter where you go, you are who you are player! Whether the scandal is going on in your community or within; what happens in the dark will come to light. Mama’s all over the world, including my own, are fond of warning their children to be conscious and aware that anything that they do in private, it could possibly get out to the public. Remember, each thought and action is planting a seed and what you plant now will determine what you will reap later. Stop telling yourself that the drama you create
What's the best present that you can give to your partner? It isn’t chocolates, roses or even diamonds, but it’s the gift of awareness and presence. Let me explain.
Mindfulness means simply being in the present moment. Why is this so valuable? Lack of mindfulness can lead to a sex life that's stale, repetitive and empty. So here is some advice from one of our experts on practicing mindfulness for true intimacy.
Sensuality is the foundation of your sexuality. In order to get erotically turned on, you must be aware of your senses and all the potential pleasure that surrounds you in every moment. In our wired world, we often focus on so much digital stimulation that we forget to tune into the physical, sensual world around us. To become more erotically alive, take some time to focus on enjoying the full potential of your sensuality.
You're happy about your promotion so you celebrate with a nice, big dinner out. You're sad to be facing Valentine's Day without a date so you down a half-gallon of rocky road while watching Grey's. You're bored so you munch on whatever jumps out at you in the kitchen while checking your social media. Happy, sad, bored, they cover a pretty large swath of emotions. Probably the only emotion that doesn't trigger eating for many "emotional eaters" is fear.
You're happy about your promotion so you celebrate with a nice, big dinner out. You're sad to be facing Valentine's Day without a date so you down a half-gallon of rocky road while watching Grey's. You're bored so you munch on whatever jumps out at you in the kitchen while checking your social media. Happy, sad, bored, they cover a pretty large swath of emotions. Probably the only emotion that doesn't trigger eating for many "emotional eaters" is fear.
In a recent study, participants ranked sex first and alcohol second on a list of things that make them happy. Meanwhile, childcare came in fifth place, begging the question: Why do people prefer sex and booze to kids?
In all my years as a parent educator, I have never met parents who earnestly wanted to hurt their children. Most parents sincerely want to encourage and empower their children to lead strong, successful lives. However, it is their lack of mindfulness that defaults into old patterns and belief systems that teach their children harmful messages rather accidently.
Although every divorce is unique, most result in an abundance of post-divorce anger. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and it's quite normal. It's unresolved anger that is corrosive and toxic. Like being in a burning house, it sucks the life out of you. Acknowledging persistent anger, and committing to do something about it, is step one. Step two is managing your anger. Here are some things to try:
Do you wish that last year went better for you? Do you struggle sometimes to figure out exactly what you really want? What would a really great year look like? Would you feel happy, healthy, less stressed, more successful, more productive, more in touch with your intuition? Perhaps you would connect better with your loved ones or be a better parent? Is losing weight, making more money, attracting a love partner on your wish list?
