By Marcus Osborne for GalTime I get lots of emails from women asking me for tips on how to support the man in their lives. Why? I think it’s because while gals have mastered the role of being incredibly helpful to their female friends, they manage to miss the boat when it comes to guys.
MEN AND DATING
We’ve all wondered why a certain guy will not make a commitment to the woman he is dating and has been with for years on a regular basis. He may have even introduced her to his family or taken her home for Thanksgiving dinners. His family might know and like her. Everyone may be wondering why they aren’t officially a couple. SHE may even be wondering why! Yet he continues to say “We’re just friends” or “she’s not my girlfriend” when asked for clarification on their relationship.
When I use the words "men" and "rebound" in the same sentence, male minds might quickly conjure up thoughts of their favorite NBA teams. Women, however, understand that I am addressing the phenomenon of rushing into a new relationship after the dissolution of an old one. And while men aren't the only ones guilty of this relationship ricochet, they are, by far, the most-likely to engage in this particular type of reactionary behavior.
Your decision to remain celibate is based on your own, personal, selfish desire to meet the man of your dreams and avoid getting hurt. You want the rewards of a relationship without the collateral damage, and you are using your body – instead of your brain – as a bargaining tool.
Many women today, are making the same complaint; they can’t find a decent guy to settle down with. Most of my single girlfriends voice the complaint, that there seems to be a shortage of good men. Not to be left out of the fray, many males by their defining behavior seem to believe that the girls should perhaps just learn to share. And therein lies the problem. One of the defining characteristics of the male has been his propensity to be fairly generous in his affections and this happens to be the one trait which most of us women find intolerable!
So I met Coach Andrew Poretz about 4 1/2 years ago at a Quentin's Friends party in New York City. If you live in the tri-state area and you're not a member of QFNY, you need to be! There was immediate affinity, followed by hysterical laughter of everyone around us. Do you know what happens when 2 men have all around them laughing? They attract lots more people who also want to laugh. Big hint there guys.
Your intimacy quotient is crucial for a man to go from "attracted to you" to "totally intoxicated by you"! This quotient is measured by how intimate your energy feels to him--whether he wants to get closer and closer to you or not by the way you interact with him in quiet, loving and romantic moments. Your capacity for deep levels of intimacy is all related to how much physical and emotional closeness you can tolerate and even INVITE with a man. Are you fully available to 'melt into him' during pillow talk? Can you take a walk on the beach and turn it into the greatest memories of tenderness and mutual understanding he has ever known? Can you open him up like a book and get him willingly talking to you about secrets he's never told any other woman?
I think it is appropriate that my first column should deal with the most fundamental truth about men, and that is this: Men are simple. I know some of you may be thinking that I’ve completely sold out my brethren in an effort to pander to my female readers and gain their trust. But that is just not true. Because “simple” is not bad, or inferior, or lacking value and substance. “Simple” means simply…not complex.
No, really. This was the discussion between myself and my brilliant new friend Inna Kats who will hopefully be working with myself and my staff on promoting both our new ebook, and our Dating DeMistyfied Workshop in late June. It began innocently enough while talking business, but our personalities seemed like such a perfect fit, that the discussion moved into more interesting topics, like flatulence for example.
Do you think that playing hard to get will create the kind of romantic tension with your man that will make him crazy about you? Well, it probably will work– with most men and for a short while. The problem is that it won’t work in the long run with mature men who know that quality women are REAL people.
Okay, so now that I have your attention ladies, I need to inform you that this article may get a bit, shall we say “racy?” If you’re good with that please, continue reading. If not, well, okay then! In this article I’ll be discussing passion, I’ll be discussing control; I’ll be discussing confidence, erotica, guile, and I’ll be discussing a way to surprise your man and knock his socks off in a way that he will never forget. So what will that accomplish?
A quote attributed to the great George Carlin states that “Men are all stupid and Women are all crazy. And the reason women are all crazy is because men are all stupid” I’d like to add a few words to this sage verbiage: “And when the few men who are not stupid run into the women who the stupid men have turned crazy, those men in turn suddenly become stupid.” It’s a defense mechanism and we, as men have learned to use it effectively.
The enchantresses in the legends of King Arthur brought balance to a society ruled by male domination. Through their seductive, female magic they magnetized the men of Camelot-- the King’s warriors set aside their brutish behavior and broke their backs to court these women. They acted with chivalry in the hopes of earning a smidgen of feminine admiration and tender, female affection. You, too, can be a modern-day enchantress and inspire a man to honor the laws of chivalry in your relationship. You can magnetize and hypnotize the men you are dating by embracing the power a woman has when creating intimacy with a man! By having the right energy around a man and using the right words and body language when interacting with him, you can ignite long-lasting flames of passion in his susceptible heart!
By Sarah Foulkes, for GALTime When it comes to dating disasters, do you ever wonder, "What went wrong?" or "Why did he break up with me?" The truth is, most often women don’t know why things fell apart-- because they unknowingly played a role in it. Fortunately, David Good, a former "Bachelorette" contestant and winner of the reality TV show "Bachelor Pad", has the answers.
By Marcus Osborne, SMF, for GALTime.com So race car driver/spokeswoman/model Danica Patrick objects to being called “sexy”? Huh? This is the same woman who’s known just as much for her barely-clothed appearances in Super Bowl commercials every year as she is for being one of the few female drivers on the NASCAR circuit. You’re kidding, right Danica? It must truly be an odd position for women. Quite difficult indeed.
In a recent workshop, one of my participants asked the question: “Who should pay for dinner on a date?” This is not the first time I’ve been asked this question. What is interesting though is that the ONLY students who ask me this are my female participants. However this isn’t surprising if we look at women and money from a historical perspective..
What are YOU committed to? “Love!” “Soulmate Love!” “Lifelong partnership!” “The man of my dreams!” – You may be saying. Many people do. Nobody would SAY “I’m committed to more of the same unfulfilling relationships I’ve had the last ten years.” So why does it keep happening? Because, uhm…how can I say this? Often we’re just full of it. And scared. And Busy. And scared. And… just don’t know any better.