Many times, friends of mine will ask me, "Alan, what is the primary target demographic of your books?" My general response is always "any and all single heterosexual men." If pressed further, I will usually say men who fall into the category of the "frustrated nice guy."
MEN AND DATING
Everyone is a mixed bag, the kindest person will become irate at times, and the meanest person can be found every now and then throwing some change at a homeless person. Dating, that effervescent mix of loneliness, want, desire and impatience, leads to blurry vision. How do you know when the person who is sharply ordering that second dessert to the slow waitress is mean or just having a bad day?
Question: I am fairly young, 23, and I've been hooking up with this guy for 7 months now. When we started hooking up he stated that he didn’t want a girlfriend, and he still feels the same way. Recently I told him that I was developing feelings for him. To protect me from getting hurt he decided that we should end things, saying that he didn’t want to hurt me in the long run (which he believed was inevitable). Knowing that he said that and that he was capable of doing such a hurtful thing,
Question: I have been with my boyfriend for over two years. He often complains about my seventeen-year-old daughter. When we’re together she will sometimes tease him or say something that bothers him, and he will get up and leave, then call me and tell me why he left. I have spoken with my daughter and she doesn’t feel that she’s done anything wrong. What should I do? ...Cherise
by Aline P. Zoldbrod Ph.D. (EXPERT) March 2013 is the fifteeth anniversary of Viagra becoming available (on the 27th of March, to be exact). In a lot of ways, Viagra’s invention merits a celebration. Erectile dysfunction is quite common--more common as men age, but not rare in younger men. Men with E.D. are miserable. If they are married, they are insecure and defensive, avoid sex, get depressed; sometimes their feelings come out as anger toward their partner.
Confession time again. My delayed tears have been flowing when I finally couldn't repress and deny how it felt. The fact is, my honorary older brothers were adamant, when a guy says he wants to be friends it's not a good thing. My problem is that I told myself I wasn't hurt. When I finally admitted to myself that I was.... floodgates. Had I allowed myself to face my letdown it would not have come to this. By repressing those feelings they got stronger from all the pressure of being stuffed down.
In a recent study conducted by Harris Interactive for AnastasiaDate.com, a group of 1,000 men were polled on their thoughts on online dating. The men ranged in ages from 35-55. Over half of the men had tried online dating, and of those who tried, over 65 percent had actually met someone through the medium.
There's nothing worse than being forced to do something you don't want to do ... unless you also have to pay for it. Frequently, partners or spouses get dragged into counseling when they'd rather be almost anywhere else. The thought of talking to a stranger about feelings and intimacy appeals greatly to some, disgusts others and terrifies many.
Thinking your bathroom is a good photo backdrop Online dating: It’s a phrase that used to be met with looks of puzzlement followed by concern, then massive amounts of judgment. Now, though, it seems that every singleton is attempting to find love through their keyboard, or knows someone who’s met their soul mate online. If you've tried and failed, fret not, guys, we’re here to help! Here are five things you’re doing totally wrong, and how to improve your online dating luck. -- By Gina Cohen
If you want to win a man’s heart and make him yours forever, you have to make him want to both protect you and ravish you senseless at the same time. That’s when he will be attentive, romantic and affectionate. That’s when he will feel inspired to commit and be emotionally available. Creating An Emotional Connection With A Man
Perhaps one of the hardest parts of being The Bachelor on ABC's hit reality show is not being able to say "I love you" until the final rose ceremony - even when his leading lady says the L-word first. All of this ambiguity leaves many contestants wondering how the bachelor feels about them or if he's even interested, and before you know it, drama takes over. Whether dating on reality television or in real life, this is a very common scenario. Most men won't come right out and tell you how they feel immediately, or at least not until they're absolutely sure.
When people think about the hardest part of online dating, they often point to the written profile. Oh man, it's hard to write about yourself, right? Funny thing is that while writing about yourself is a skill, it's not writing about yourself, per se, which is the point most men struggle with and stops them from getting dates. They are simply bad at engagement. The goal of every component of online dating is engagement.
Do you have trouble communicating with the man you love or with men in general? Do you feel like you push men away when trying to express your needs? If so, I know exactly how you feel and I want to offer you the right words to make a man fall in love so that you can stop putting a wedge between yourself and a man and start bringing him closer with the power of intimacy.
I got contacted by a female client recently, she had one single follow up question to a consultation I'd given her on her profile, pictures, online behavior and even email techniques. Everything was solid and great, but I was happy to answer whatever this question was. Female clients are not rare to me. I love them. The funny thing is that in my business, Expert Online Dating, I've built a speciality around helping men do online dating.
The Top 12 Reasons Why He Suddenly Quit Calling. I was shopping in one of my favorite consignment stores and found an awesome bikini for my trip to LA. yesterday. Shopping and talking about men with the girls is so good for a woman’s soul. It releases oxytocin and we feel so much better about ourselves when it floods our body.