I’m fortunate enough to have a good number of “guyfriends.” They’re like girlfriends, but… well, they’re guys. So they put a whole different spin on conversation. We don’t talk about the latest nail polish colors or <yawn> the what can become when talking with women… tiresome topic of children; rather, we talk about the stock market, business ideas, or how their boat is running, the work they’re doing to it, and the next trip they’re gonna take on it.
MEN AND DATING
What Happened On the Date that Turned Him Off? A friend of mine almost canceled a date with a guy because she woke up with a zit. She came over to my apartment freaking out: “How big is it? Is it all you can see when you look at me? Should I make up an excuse to cancel?”
I need to address something that I have noticed for the last few years in the dating world. After spending a few evenings out with the girls this past month, I see very little interaction between single men & women. It is exasperating to watch this “non event” happen at every establishment visited throughout the course of the evening. It reminds me of a Grade 8 dance, boys on one side of the room & girls on the other.
When I set out on a quest (for my book, 'Are All Guys Assholes?') to prove that guys aren't actually as bad as we assume, I thought women would embrace the message as good news. "Guys actually want relationships and care about more than just sex? That's awesome!" Instead, many of them have wanted fight me on it. I've been met with an army of "evidence" seemingly suggesting that my own research is wrong, and that the stereotype we have about men being commitment-phobic, sex-fiends is firmly rooted in scientific fact. The problem is, many of these so-called facts have been used to jump to faulty conclusions.
Are you suffering from the date-less-on - a Saturday night blues? Imagine the following scenario: The weekend is fast approaching and you are without a date. What will you do with yourself? Decide to rent a movie and watch it in bed with a bowl of snacks, just like you did last week, and the week before that? All your girlfriends are out with their boyfriends, so you won’t have them to call, and occupy your time, so you may as well stay home for the night, right ?
I say "Yes, there are!" Lots of men who are considered good or even great are out there. The question is, “What is good for you?” It’s most important that you are clear on what you desire in your relationship. Most of your desires come from your subconscious and have been placed there by someone else. For instance, what did your mother, grandmother, aunts and older siblings say about a “good” man.
Remember Seinfeld? One of the running gags was Jerry's amazing ability to spotlight every annoying habit or imperfection his date had. There was the date who had “man hands,” the one who had a laugh like Elmer Fudd, and the one who ate her peas one at a time. All good reasons to break up, according to Jerry, and a never-ending source of ridicule from his friend (and former girlfriend) Elaine. We might think Jerry's faultfinding is as crazy as Elaine does, but still, it makes us laugh. Why? Because it's so common.
As a man, I have, on several occasions, been freaked out by one or more of these things. 1)Talking about having or naming babies. Unless you are pregnant or are currently in possession of an unnamed baby there should be no reason to be playing "if we had a baby what would we name it?" game. Second, the concept of a baby is scary to a man because it means they are essentially tied to you forever.
How about the same rehashed, trite article you might find at written by someone who has on several occasions personally been freaked out by one or more of these things. It's all well and good having a woman telling other women how to avoid scaring men off but I think a man's perspective is golden. So here are
WOW…..That’s how I can sum up the week I just had. Well here it goes… I've been seeing, dating, hanging out (whatever the F you want to call it) this guy for a couple of months now. I had to get him back on track a few times which should have been a sign for me from the start. BUT I was becoming emotionally attached to him even though my conscience knew something seemed fishy. He takes me out for my birthday before hand because he says he won’t be around my actual birthday weekend.
When you meet a new man you like, it’s tempting to think you need to actively do something to show him why he should be attracted to you and interested in you. You might think you need to show him what a great cook you are by making him a meal or helping him with a problem so that he sees that you’d make a good partner. Learn How To Know What A Man Is Really Thinking
In the 21st century, women’s equality continues to thrive, permeating all aspects of society and industry. However, there is one area where women consistently have more power over men: the dating marketplace. In the dating marketplace, women have a distinct advantage over men because of gender. The demands women face are not commensurate to the extensive requirements placed upon men. Consequently, dating is not an equal playing field.
Following our GGNO Club’s Virtual Man Panel last week I decided to keep sharing “from the horses mouth.” Here is a response from “Drew” to an article I posted the other day. Drew seems very thoughtful, yet seemingly frustrated by his online dating experiences. (Sound familiar ladies?) Thanks to Drew for taking the time to help us out here. Warning: read the entire stream before you get all in a tizzy about what he’s saying. He makes some excellent points that will help you find a man. Drew: “You’re the star in your story.” While this is a nice thought for women as an esteem-boosting affirmation, it could be taken way too far. As a man who reads so many female profiles online, I already see plenty of the “You’re the star in your story” point of view from women.
Last week a smart, thoughtful woman left a comment on my post about Dating the Somewhat Disappearing Man.
I get asked this question constantly. Women who are dating want to know this; especially women who are divorced and over 40, and haven’t been dating for some time. They also want to know how they can tell if sex is all he wants.