Honesty, empathy and more things he's really looking for, according to a guy.
MEN AND DATING
For so many women, there's one thing at the top of the list. Before sense of humor, cooking, a nice body, intelligence, even loves dogs and kids. That thing? It seems many women out there are looking for a mind reader. I have a friend, and that is to say have I have many friends, who have gone down this road. First comes the excitement. You get to lay down the ground rules. You say you don't want a relationship? Done. You say you just want to keep it casual? Okay. Just got out of a long/bad/boring relationship? It's all good. Everything goes well. He calls; he texts.
Breaking up is hard to do. What can be even harder to do is when you feel like you want to get back together with your ex, especially if he doesn't want the same things. But is it a good idea to get back together with him? And why do you want to as well? Our expert reveals what could possibly come from this.
When we asked a bunch of guys to tell us what, if anything, they get nervous about on a first date, we were sort of expecting the usual answers: bad breath, what to wear, whether there will be chemistry, etc. But one common theme quickly emerged from polling the dudes.
YourTango expert Charles J. Orlando is taking over our Facebook page on 5/15 at 1 PM to answer your burning questions on dating and relationships. Leave your question in the comments.
If sparks fly when you first meet someone it can mean chemistry is there for you both of you. I suggest you pursue this relationship. It could be "love at first signt" which you may or may not believe in. Over the years I have had strong attractions to many men only to find out they have more baggage than I care to deal with.`They ended up being toxic with all the co-pendent issues there.
If narcissism were a disease, it would be considered a pandemic. Our culture not only condones selfishness, but celebrates it as a virtue. Materialism, driven by corporate interests and advertising, reinforces the focus on accumulation for self. The media is suffused with a focus on individual success, beauty, celebrity, fame, and status. The rugged individual is held up as a model of excellence, alongside the ultra-rich CEO, the celebrity sports figure, the bad-boy artist, and the soldier of fortune.
I Grant* on a dating site. Immediately attracted to his brilliantly written profile and fierce photo, I wrote to him. It was electric instantly. We met the following day and there started a 3 month intense affair. He spoiled me, ridiculously from day one. Over the top gifts, household items for "our house" and crazy declarations of me being his future wife. Talk of taking me to his hometown in Cape Town. Phone intro to the parents. Apparently we'd be married by June so I needed to "hurry" my divorce!
As promised, here is the second installment in my exposé on men’s dirty little secrets. As I’m sure many of you know, men are visual beings. We are motivated to action and stimulated most by our sense of sight. As such, when we see something provocative it can have a profound effect on us. And by profound effect, I mean, we get an erection. It’s automatic, we think very little about it and are fairly accustomed to it, as we have regularly had to deal with this “affliction” since we were but mere lads. And all o
Many times, friends of mine will ask me, "Alan, what is the primary target demographic of your books?" My general response is always "any and all single heterosexual men." If pressed further, I will usually say men who fall into the category of the "frustrated nice guy."
Everyone is a mixed bag, the kindest person will become irate at times, and the meanest person can be found every now and then throwing some change at a homeless person. Dating, that effervescent mix of loneliness, want, desire and impatience, leads to blurry vision. How do you know when the person who is sharply ordering that second dessert to the slow waitress is mean or just having a bad day?
Question: I am fairly young, 23, and I've been hooking up with this guy for 7 months now. When we started hooking up he stated that he didn’t want a girlfriend, and he still feels the same way. Recently I told him that I was developing feelings for him. To protect me from getting hurt he decided that we should end things, saying that he didn’t want to hurt me in the long run (which he believed was inevitable). Knowing that he said that and that he was capable of doing such a hurtful thing,
Question: I have been with my boyfriend for over two years. He often complains about my seventeen-year-old daughter. When we’re together she will sometimes tease him or say something that bothers him, and he will get up and leave, then call me and tell me why he left. I have spoken with my daughter and she doesn’t feel that she’s done anything wrong. What should I do? ...Cherise
by Aline P. Zoldbrod Ph.D. (EXPERT) March 2013 is the fifteeth anniversary of Viagra becoming available (on the 27th of March, to be exact). In a lot of ways, Viagra’s invention merits a celebration. Erectile dysfunction is quite common--more common as men age, but not rare in younger men. Men with E.D. are miserable. If they are married, they are insecure and defensive, avoid sex, get depressed; sometimes their feelings come out as anger toward their partner.