BDSM has gained mainstream attention lately, thanks in part to "Fifty Shades of Grey," a book with an S&M relationship at its center.
Now, we know that what floats one person's sexual boat can equate to a quickly sinking libido for others. Talking dirty can take some getting used to if it isn't your go-to, for example. It's the dachryphiliacs, those attracted to making one cry, and emetophiliacs, those attracted to vomit, who might have a tougher time working out their differences with their partners. According to one fetish poll, masochism seems to be the top ranking "alternative" sexual predilection, followed closely by odaxelagnia (biting) and xenophilia (attraction to foreigners), all of which are leaps and bounds more manageable than, say, coprophilia.
A Canadian chap claims that he's being discriminated against by their version of the DMV. His rationale is that he's a pagan and practices Sadism & Masochism. He thinks that his religion, sexuality, or both are being suppressed. He may have a point, a Human Rights Tribunal will decide.
A professor from the University of New Hampshire has made it his career goal to make a case that spanking is bad. He previously did a study that showed a link between spanking children and their interest in masochistic sex. He's also conducted a more recent study that correlates the level of childhood beating and the proclivity to pressure partners for sex. He would clearly prefer some sort of hands off approach.
A Canadian professor has recently woke from a three-day coma. He was put into that coma via oxygen deprivation. The was deprived of oxygen by bondage. He was bound by a professional dominatrix in New York. He was visiting New York under false-pretenses according to his family. He claims that he's over this scene.
What’s the first step in exploring S&M? Change the way you think. What exactly constitutes as S&M and are you comfortable enough in your sexual relationship to try it? Ky Henderson clears up misconceptions and speaks to couples who agree that it is a new way to build trust and explore ways to potentially liven up a “vanilla” sex life.