Never, ever be lulled into thinking you can take your marriage for granted. Our experts share their revealing research about what happily married couples have in common.
![Holiday Survival Guide: In-Law Edition [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/image_blog/mil.jpg "Holiday Survival Guide: In-Law Edition [EXPERT]")
During the holidays, not only do we get to spend a lot of time with our families, as an added bonus, we get to spend more time with our in-laws.
![6 Surprising Secrets To A Happy Relationship [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/image_blog/happiest.jpg "6 Surprising Secrets To A Happy Relationship [EXPERT]")
Is anyone happy in their relationship? In a word, yes. There are many couples that are happy being together. But the headline, "thousands of couples achieve happiness," doesn't have the same ring as "divorce rates are climbing." So, how are these couples staying happy through all the normal peaks and valleys of marriage, coupled with today's economic challenges? Are they just lucky? Is their mantra the proverbial "yes, dear" with an eye roll? Well, sfter surveying 500 men and women on my Facebook page, the answers and secrets are crystal clear.
I need you! I want you! I cannot live without you! Do these words really express the feeling of love? Mistaking a need for a warm body next to you for love often makes it impossible to experience the state of love, a feeling of merging and melting, a sense of belonging, a sensation of being one.
THE TRUTH ABOUT CONFLICT Conflict is inevitable. All couples have conflict. But it’s how you handle that conflict that defines the quality of your relationship. The decision to use conflict creatively to enhance your relationship and bring you closer is a conscious choice. Disagreements are a viable and healthy part of relationships.
