As a matchmaker, my task is to facilitate singles to connect with their soul mates. In other words, just call me Cupid! In the dozen or so years that I have been matchmaking, I have had the pleasure of introducing many couples that have gone on to get married and ride off into the sunset living happily ever after. But there are also many singles that are still searching, and still struggling to find that perfect mate for them.
MARRIAGE, RESENTMENTS, BITTERNESS, TOXIC
How many times have I felt that way and how often have I heard this sigh coming from others before I began to deal with Emotional Manipulation? Weeding out manipulative attempts from straightforward communication or rightful influence is not always an easy ride. Cloud of negative emotions Before I recognize my emotions, I feel my heart pounding and my breathing becomes labored.
As Christopher Columbus said, you can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. It's hard to let go of that shore post-divorce or after any relationship tanks. No matter how bad the relationship was or how much you wanted out, it's still what you've known, possibly for a very, very long time.
WHY MONEY MATTERS Money makes the world go around but it can also tank a marriage faster than you can say “Mutual Funds” which is true especially if both of you aren’t on the same page, financially speaking, Looking back I see that not only were my ex and I not on the same page but we were reading completely different books.
In an effort to help you understand the man side of this midlife dating experience, I’ve introduced you to The Princess, The 18 Year Old, The Scaredy Cat and The Wow-Me Woman: all FemiTypes* that send good men running. Today I’m going to talk about perhaps the most challenging of all FemiTypes: The Bitter Woman. She is a little scary, a lot angry, and all about being a victim. Not only does she scare and briefly traumatize the men she meets, but her bitterness probably seeps into all areas of her life.
Today is the perfect day to do a romantic life check-up, where you take account of what you have~and compare it to what you want. If it's off at all, this is a good time to assess if you are in the right relationship or not. One clue to knowing if you are with the wrong man, is to notice the patterns of your relationship.
I had been working with a couple on the concept of making amends and offering one another sincere apologies for ways in which they have hurt one another. He stated truthfully that he was not ready to offer an apology that was genuine because he still was not getting what he wanted and needed in this marriage. After further discussion, both people were able to see they have some deep roots of resentment and bitterness towards one another that they were not willing and able to release yet.