Compulsive spending and debting has become a major problem in our society since the invention of credit cards and debit cards. Many compulsive spenders go on shopping sprees but manage to pay their debts and live within their means. Others live well beyond their means and stay one step ahead of their creditors.
Some people think that going to a therapist is like going to a car mechanic. They expect the therapist to diagnose a specific problem and fix it just as the mechanic puts in new brake pads or readjusts the carburetor. These clients expect something to happen to them. That is not the case. Don’t expect your therapist to have all the answers. Therapists don’t come with crystal balls.
We like to think that the holiday season is a blissful time for all, but for many couples, it can create extra stress to an already rocky marriag
We call it "dropping the bomb" syndrome and it usually follows the same pattern: one partner believes their marriage is going along fine when the other suddenly announces it's over; finished, done, period. It turns out that things were far from fine; there was a lot of denial going on, a lot of saying 'yes' when you mean 'no' and a lot of unexpressed anger simmering just below the surface. When that simmer reaches a boil, the bomb drops. How can you know if your husband is really happily married? Is there a way to tell if your marriage is bomb proof? When he says "I love you" can you believe it? Here are ten ways to know he's happy in your marriage.
If your spouse is telling you "No way will I go to a therapist," all is not hopeless. Start with awareness of three wo common mistakes. Avoid these lest you inadvertently push your spouse away. Pushing him further from you would yield the opposite of your intent to make the marriage better.
I know a lot of women whose husbands' alpha male wiring goes to a whole other level. Unfortunately, many of these wives are in denial of their husband's behavior because, for whatever reason, they don't want to confront the issue. Here are six clues that your partner may be acting more bully than just alpha.
As divorce rates in the U.S. were rising by the end of World War II, so were fears over the state of marriage and family life. Skyrocketing rates sent many couples to seek expert advice to bolster their marriages. During this time, the idea that marriage could be saved—and a divorce prevented—with enough work gained ground, according to Kristin Celello, assistant professor of history at Queens College, City University of New York, in her fascinating book Making Marriage Work: A History of Marriage and Divorce in the Twentieth-Century United States. A slew of experts stepped in to help American couples strengthen their unions...and with some interesting suggestions.
According to research by Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, while 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, 67 percent of second marriages and 74 percent of third marriages end in divorce. Is this surprising?
What can you do to improve the chances that couples therapy is worth the time and money you put into it? In other words, what makes marriage counseling work? Of course you need the help of a skilled marriage therapist, but there are several things you can do to help make your marriage counseling a success.