Before leaving your marriage, heal your end of your relationship system and see what happens!
Are you thinking of getting a divorce because:
Your spouse is physically or verbally abusive with you or with your children?
Your spouse is an alcoholic or drug addict and has no intention of dealing with the addiction?
Your spouse has a gambling addiction and is causing financial hardship?
You want to have a baby and you thought your spouse wanted a child too, but now says he or she doesn't?
When my preschooler was jokingly asked if he was married, he shouted, "No, I’m happy." Which got me thinking: I've been married for 22 years and, overall, I'm pretty happy. Is that the same as being "happily married"?
One newlywed couple scoffs at convention and redefines modern marriage roles.
I'd argue that, for all of my wifely qualities (I can obsess over throw pillows with the best of them), I have an inner husband who tends to drive at least double the legal speed limit and leave socks on the floor, while my actual husband— tall, handsome, manly-guy that he is — has an inner wife who lives to make sure we both have clean underwear.
??Call us Wusband and Hife? ??
These labels, at least, allow for a little overlap: A division of labor based on what we're each best at, not just what's assigned us by virtue of chromosome.??
Of course, in some ways, we resemble happy "normal" newlyweds: I like to cook. For him. My husband, on the other hand, is very able to cook—but usually he'll start the pasta sauce along with a line of questioning like: Do I add water? Should I put it in the microwave? If I add garlic, do I chop it first? Most nights I wind up manning the pan, while he happily goes back to Guitar Hero.
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